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You Don't Have to Be Einstein to Understand This Connection

Posted by Leticia, 30 Aug

“Online dating does work, and I’m living proof of that,” says Nandi, who used our site to meet a man she’s mad for. “For some people, it doesn’t take long to find that certain someone. For others, it takes quite awhile. The main thing is, don’t ever give up. The longer it takes, the more rewarding it’ll be when you find that special person.”

Dustin, Nandi’s new beau, advises singles to “keep your head up and keep looking. Just because you don’t find someone right away doesn’t mean you won’t! Your perfect person is out there.”

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Nandi joined our site with the sense that this could be big for her. She explains... “I was more confident than most because some of my family members have found their loved ones on dating sites.”

A newcomer to the online personals scene, Nandi was excited by the possibilities as she explored our site. “It was my first experience! I thought it would be fun. Plus, it’s easier to narrow down what you’re looking for.”

Dustin, however, was wrestling with significant doubts about dating online. “I was not confident,” he admits. “I was losing hope. I wanted to try online dating because there were no good women in my area I would want to date. I figured online dating was my best option.”

Unfortunately, Dustin’s initial forays into the online dating pool were unsuccessful. “I had used several sites before, with no luck.” Still, something convinced him to roll the dice on us. “I was giving online sites one last try before cutting my losses,” he says of his decision to sign up.

Nandi and Dustin joined at about the same time. It was only a couple of weeks before their paths crossed. Nandi wrote in her profile that she was interested in quantum astronomy and quantum physics. So “Dustin86” sent “Seaflower912” (Nandi) an email complimenting her on her intelligence. He didn’t expect to receive anything in return. But Nandi wrote back. “We began talking every day,” she says.

Sometimes people seem great on the surface, but the more you get to know them, the more you know there’s no match to be made. In Dustin’s case, Nandi passed each successive test with flying colors. “My first impression of her when I saw her profile was ‘Wow! She’s smart, and pretty!’ That impression solidified and I knew I was hooked. This girl was everything I was looking for: intelligent, sweet, charming, beautiful. The whole package.”

After close to two months of emailing and calling one another every day, Dustin and Nandi were ready to road test this relationship in the making. “I thought I knew as much about her as I possibly could without meeting in person,” says Dustin. So he decided to take this courtship to the next level.

For their first date, they went bowling and had dinner afterwards. Nandi shares her impressions. “My first thought was how tall he was, which I loved, and how handsome and well dressed. He was a gentleman. He was also very independent and mature for his age.”

Dustin was intoxicated by Nandi’s feminine grace. “My first thought was how pretty she was, and how much I liked her hair,” he says. “But I was surprised she was so quiet, when we had talked about so much on the phone and over email.”

Nandi may have been a bit shy in their first meeting, but Dustin’s gregarious personality filled the silences. “I was surprised at how outspoken and lively he was, although I shouldn’t have been because he’d seemed that way over the phone.”

As the end of the date drew near, neither party wanted to walk away. “We both had a wonderful evening and wanted to see each other again,” says Nandi. “The fact that I didn’t want to part ways after our first date was a reassurance for me.” Dustin was thoroughly convinced, as well. “I knew I wanted to go out again!”

Their relationship progressed steadily from there. Nandi came to find that the guy in her life was even more impressive than advertised. “Many things didn’t come across in his profile that I know now and really appreciate. He’s extremely caring and protective. He’s also very driven, which is good motivation for me!”

Dustin didn’t corner the market on ambition, though. “I really like how passionate Nandi is,” he says. “In everything she does, she tries to accomplish it to the best of her ability. Whether it’s writing a new song, or cooking a meal….”

We usually ask couples if their partner is exactly the person they always hoped to find, or a surprise match. Of Dustin, Nandi says “his personality was different than my ‘type,’ but better than what I’d hoped for. But we are very similar when it comes to intelligence, creativity, and physical activity.”

Dustin didn’t have a type in the traditional sense, but he did set priorities before embarking on his search for love. “I had actually written up a list of all the attributes I was looking for in a partner. Nandi has every attribute!”

Nandi is still blissed out by her good fortune. “I never really thought having someone in my life could make me want to experience more, or even make me happier. But I’m happier now than ever, and it’s a great feeling.”

Dustin and Nandi are helping each other to grow and mature. Their mutual and individual goals seem much more attainable with a supportive partner in their corner. Dustin is well aware of the impact his sweetheart has made on his life. “Since I met Nandi, I am a lot happier and more motivated to push myself. I want to succeed and accomplish a lot, not only for myself but to make her proud.”

For singles seeking the advice of someone who made our site work for them, Nandi has this to say. “You have to know exactly what you want when you begin. You can’t accept every Flirt or message you get from people, because it’s a waste of your time and theirs if you know they’re not what you’re looking for. Use that time searching for the one you want!”

Dustin has also thought about suggestions to share with our membership. “There are a lot of people who you may think you could like but, without definite guidelines, you can get lost in all the profiles. Don’t settle for someone you will not be truly happy with.”

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  1.   krish54543 says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 14

    Wow thats good

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  2.   preyerina says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 14

    woow thats good

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  3.   luvseeker27 says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 14

    Wow! Thats amazing.... congratualtions guys.

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  4.   Candallin says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 14

    They're so cute.

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  5.   amootious says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 14

    May God direct me to the right soul mate with whom I share happiness and joy forever

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  6.   amootious says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 14

    Congs to Nandi and Dustin big ups for you and I believe Iw get the best from this site

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  7.   brijp says:
    Posted: 24 May 14

    Woow so cute

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  8.   Michelle32L says:
    Posted: 19 May 14

    God bless you both!

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  9.   juniorcito says:
    Posted: 18 May 14

    nice

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  10.   waato says:
    Posted: 13 May 14

    nice am very happy for u guyz even mi want to be like u

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  11.   adama001 says:
    Posted: 11 May 14

    So cute

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  12.   shinelimat says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 14

    wooow am happy for u guys

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  13.   friendly51 says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 14

    I enjoyed this beautiful love story. It really gives me hope that my true love will find me. My GOD keep BLESSING.

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  14.   lunyque622 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 14

    Thats so kul,happy life

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  15.   Jayjay. says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 14

    Thats so cool.

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  16.   godgada2 says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 14

    Am happy for them hooping to get my

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  17.   matul says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 14

    They're so cute together

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  18.   Nathco says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 14

    May God locate your marriage with joy of over flow.

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  19.   Maadox says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 14

    oooohhhhhhhh I wish it will be me next to meet that wonderful and special some one that we both can spend the rest of our lives together. GOD HELP ME.

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    • Hty29 says:
      Posted: 30 Sep 15

      l can't see your picture, l can be that special someone.

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  20.   salemi says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 14

    really love and honesty

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  21.   SophyBlack says:
    Posted: 01 Dec 13

    this is interesting wat a match wat a link ..congratulations fela's ...i'm happy for you guys

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  22.   Philjim says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 13

    I am impressed. May such good fortune come my way.

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  23.   Ambeco says:
    Posted: 11 Nov 13

    Congrats guys i wish best in life

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  24.   dumebbydumebby says:
    Posted: 09 Nov 13

    Am hppy 4 u guys

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  25.   starman34 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 13

    I m trying to get someone here, but is not easy. i will keep on trying

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  26.   cynthia138 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 13

    wow that is a wonderful story l wish you guys the best, and l wish l meet my own man here who will love and want me for me.

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  27.   Loesee says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 13

    Wow amazing article. I have been single for quite a while and I am totally into vanilla men. I still have my hopes up high that one day I will meet my mate to complete out topdeck. Durban Does not seem to have many young white guys on the site but my turn is yet to come. Honestly I am in no rush. I hope everyone finds their soulmate. All the best and congrats to those who have found their partners xoxo Lucia

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  28.   dark.angel says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 13

    Wow!! What a stunning beautiful couple good luck to both of you x

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  29.   eltrut says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 13

    You both have my blessing. It's time to see more black women with white men instead the other way all the time. Don't get me wrong that's fine but from what I have been told ,that not going to happen b/c white men are afraid of what people will say and white women could care less and I think it is true. They say white men are weak when it comes to standing for what they believe in for what they really want or the way they fill. I know for a fact white men look at black women and like us but are scared to say anything to us. They don't have to take us like they use to all they need to do is speak up(don't be afraid). You both are beautiful young people go for it and stick together love concords all:-) eltrut

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  30.   Galvsailor says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 13

    Sweet story and a lovely couple....good fortune to you two!!

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  31.   galaz1975 says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 12

    You've set the pace on this site guys, all the best in your union and my it continue to blossom on each and everyday. You're so compatible.

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  32.   mike says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 12

    its so good wish them the best in life

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  33.   Ginger4922 says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 12

    I'm happy for you....you got lucky to start a relationship early. Good luck to you, I wish you the best.

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  34.   dasboogy12 says:
    Posted: 06 Dec 12

    aww thats sweet and congrats on everything you guys

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  35.   kayumba says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 12

    I wish if i get that chance .

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  36.   caramelle606 says:
    Posted: 22 Nov 12

    I wish you both a blessed union. I myself have been looking for a soulmate but meeting the weirdest people ever but I'm not looking hope. I'm on the site for three days now and still no flirt from people I really would like to meet. if you both did it, so can I. love is really more than skin deep. . .

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  37.   ivie22 says:
    Posted: 11 Nov 12

    you are both so cute, it makes me emotional just to look at you!

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  38.   anthurium says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 12

    Its a wonderful couple. I wish i can also get my White lady the same way.

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  39.   sexyhip01 says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 12

    I am encourage by their story, i thing this is the only time men and women should not settle for less than what they want. when i get flirts and emails i said thanks for checking out my profile but, i don't date married men or i dnt want a man with 5 children. i like the site. I will be giving my success story soon. good luck Dustin and Nandi.

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  40.   czar75 says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 12

    mmmmmh, this is great.......m encouraged. i know my white woman is right there. thanks for the tips

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  41.   tuliplove says:
    Posted: 28 Sep 12

    I have been a widow for to long. I am very happy to see live so pure. I believe in this kind of fortune happiness. I trwilluly .believe it could be right around the corner if your honest open and sincere. Love is so precious. you don't no until you've lost it or it died. Once I find it again I will pray I never lose it

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  42.   QTpie1968 says:
    Posted: 22 Sep 12

    Congratulations to the both of you! You make a lovely couple. It's nice to see two people who've found genuine love on here.

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  43.   pinguino6622 says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 12

    _that make the two cute couple, they look so happy congratulations to both¡¡, ( I do not lose hope just took several years trying in different places, the first attempt by several in my country of origin, and now I'am dealing with foreign sites, approximately as two years, and to me a little better result, I have several friends older than me, and for many years you were resigned, and now are elders and lonely without company, without children, I will not be so )

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  44.   BOBBIE says:
    Posted: 08 Sep 12

    This is so super wonderful and wishes all the bests..may ur bondage be showered with abundant blessings..happy and great time be you..!

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  45.   bedwarmer56 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 12

    You both are a very nicelooking couple. You also look very happy.

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  46.   Merira says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 12

    This is awesome! Two serious people! Best of luck & much happiness.

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  47.   anet123 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 12

    How cute they are together....... it`s all about love:-)

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  48.   tresse says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 12

    Congrats nandi and Dustin

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  49.   emii says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 12

    I wish you couple a happy married life

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  50.   emii says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 12

    May ur marriage be made heaven on earth,n may the spirit of God dwell in ur marriage forever. Amen.

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