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{WATCH} When You Then Get Too Excited... After Meeting Someone Great...

Posted by Matthew, 12 Apr

When we meet someone we like, it’s human nature for our imaginations to run wild. No sooner have we been on a great date than we start assessing where things could go and all of the ways this person could be the one.

These thoughts (which are just thoughts) start leading to real excitement. And this visceral excitement converts into energy. And more thoughts.

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The energy comes in the form of investing much more in this person—thinking about them, trying to reach out to them even when we don’t get the same in return, talking to our friends about them.

The thought part is where we start telling ourselves that this situation is “high-stakes.” “They could be the one!” we think. “We better do everything right. Don’t want to mess this one up.”

And all of this leads to meticulous planning and obsessing over every move we make. All of which is counterproductive to the kind of energy that, perhaps, might be right to bring to a second conversation with someone.

Avoid this mistake, me ol’ mate! Watch the new video now.

Matthew Hussey is a renowned dating expert and author. His latest dating book Get The Guy is a New York Times bestseller. He's the go-to relationship expert for Rachael Ray, Katie Couric, Ryan Seacrest, Meredith Vieira and many others. And he's a relationship columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine and the resident love expert for "The Today Show." Here he shares his proven strategies to get a man to do anything you want, from tirelessly pursuing you to treating you like a goddess to committing to you for life.