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How is attraction to Boobs or Butts different to attraction to dark or light skin?

Posted by Sidney, 22 Jul

When it comes to dating, we would all like to believe that we choose partners based on compatibility or personality traits like intelligence, confidence, or social skills. But whether we admit it openly or not, beauty and physical attraction is the first thing most people appreciate about a potential mate. And all this boils down to sexual attraction. When it comes to dating, I believe everyone needs to have a sexual interest in the other person for the relationship to be holistic.

So I ask again! What's wrong with being attracted to boobs? ... or a firm or voluptuous butt?

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NOTHING! So how is an attraction to busty women any different from being attracted to someones dark or light complexion?

Just like some people would prefer someone who is athletic, other people have skin color preferences which make them lean more towards certain skin tones in a potential mate than others. It's tied to what floats our boat.

This is why you might find a blonde man dating redheads over and over again. Its what makes him want to make a woman's bed rock. It's all about attraction. And its the same as a black man's attraction to fair skinned women... black, latino, white, asian... Its just what it is: attraction.

The problem with this attraction business is that people equate some of these attributes that pull us to a potential mate, to particular races. For instance: Skin color, eye color, hair color and texture - light skinned, silky haired blondes or brunettes are mainly Caucasian.

But if you look at this kind of attraction fairly, its the same as being attracted to women with big asses... And as stereotype goes, such women must be Latino or Black. But does this mean that someone only date latino's and blacks? Hell no. If a white woman with a big ass came along, she would definitely rock their boat.

Race and the characteristics that have come to represent it is what makes attraction seem wrong.

Dating preference is something only an individual understands. If for instance, a person gets attracted to dark-skinned men, its highly unlikely that they would instantly be attracted to a white-skinned people. And chances are, a few of this person's partners have been dark-skinned women. But dark skin represents black people... So everyone else would say: "He only dates black women" while in the real sense, what makes this person tick is dark-skin.

Very few preferences we have are inherently biased and oppressive. I think its okay to have a "type". I think for the sake of the relationship you are trying to get into with your potential mate, its totally okay to admit to yourself that you’re more attracted to certain traits. Its just what it is: preference... even though we may fully recognize that skin color, hair color, boobs and six-packs, have little-to-no effect on potential romantic compatibility, we can't help but have these preferences... RIGHT?

I think we need to look deeper into people's dating preferences and stop assuming that it means someone only wants to date a particular race. What do you think?

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  1.   Wisepoet says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 15

    Article has some points but it's all in what you like. I like curves lol

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  2.   WM4Ebony says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 15

    This article makes perfect sense as it applies to my experience.....I am totally without a doubt allured by black women.....it is a fact.....why?....I don't know but when walking into a room full of people my eyes will lock onto a black woman before any other woman.....now there are other aspects of the woman that will keep my attention but the physical attributes get the ball rolling....

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  3.   Neptune01 says:
    Posted: 12 Sep 15

    The article brings up valid points and each individual is different self included. Yet skin contrast with a lady that has curves along with long hair in curls is something that turns into kryptonite in my case. But once you get past the initial attractions is the chemistry which must exist as without it things never work. The icing on the cake is simply keeping it real and if you know you cannot provide someone the full attention of a relationship that they deserve you need to be straight with yourself first stating hey I would like to have a full time relationship but reality is I can only meet, make friends whom understand that you are working towards a worthy goal which takes up almost all of your time during the semesters. A painful but true fact as there are some very impressive ladies on this site whom desrve the full time attention of a gentleman and not being able to provide that attention full time simply resorts to hey lets just go meet up somewhere and talk as friends with nothing more and nothing less. Everyone is much happier that way.

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    • SixballQ45 says:
      Posted: 21 Sep 15

      Well said. I've always worked under the premise that "the good looks get my attention, its the Heart and Mind of the Woman that keeps it"

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  4.   DDianthus says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 15

    I absolutely agree with this article. Attraction is important. However, personality, intelligence vibrancy and character can override appearances unexpectedly.

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  5.   DTH says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 15

    I share your point of view. Some people live in denial for their true desire and quite frankly,not only this affect their well-being,it also has an impact on their emotional balance. But we live in a society that people want to comply with what is considered as the standard:say,slim blonde girl for Men while, deep inside,they fantasize for a full figure Lady with soft skin,huge boobs and big butts . I am a living proof

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  6.   intim8 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 15

    I liked the article

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  7.   Mawoneyi says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 15

    That's super

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  8.   Sugarcookii says:
    Posted: 24 Aug 15

    I find many qualities attractive. Especially intellect & being able to have something other than completely superficial conversation is nice. Also when a man understands seducing a woman's mind before trying to get physical will set you apart from the pack!

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  9.   FaroeViking says:
    Posted: 17 Aug 15

    I like boobs, big or small. It doesn't matter. I didn't think much of the butt before I got my black girlfriend (thanks to this site). She have a nicely shaped butt ;) I have always loved black women, but it wasn't available to me when I was young. I married a white woman, but divorced after many years of marriage. I kept on being attracted to black women throughout the years. As I got single, I searched this site, and found my queen. It wasn't the boobs or the butt that made me fall for her, but the person she is inside. Lets just say that the boobs and butt is an added bonus for me ;) There are a couple of pics of us on my profile

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    • crazy_4u says:
      Posted: 15 Sep 15

      I like!!!!

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      • simple0243 says:
        Posted: 06 Nov 15

        The sweetest thing that can happen to you is love. The most magical thing that you can ever dream of is love. The thing that adds beauty and joy to life is love. Life, for most of us, is incomplete with the sheer excitement of being in love. Romantic love sayings add the perfect dash of emotion and madness that we require to live.

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    • gorgeouslass says:
      Posted: 27 Sep 15

      Congrats you have a gorgeous lady x

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  10.   Mysticstar says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 15

    Preferences does not mean your locked into One Thing about a Person! It just means that! You prefer That! It's a Ideal! Not everything! I am Attracted and Prefer Voluptuous Dark Complexioned Black Women with Big Round Butts(Ghetto Buts?)! And I have had good Relationships with that kind of Women! But I have had Relationships with other kinds of Women of different races(I hate that word! See Man's Most Dangerous Myth by A. Huxley!) I have had loving Relationships with Black Women, Asian Woman, Hispanic Woman, and White Women! They all were good and had bad times that had nothing to do with Race, but more with Character and Culture then Race! I still want a Voluptuous Dark Complexioned Woman with a Big Round Butt like Serena or JLo if I can! A Loving woman of Good Character and Deneanor would be just fine if I do not find one of My Preference! Duane

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  11.   Mosiah7 says:
    Posted: 10 Aug 15

    As a black man from the south, I grew up more attracted to booty over boobs. I can't speak for all white guys but growing up most of them would be like, "Look at the rack on that girl," while I was checking women out more from behind. White men appreciate the butt now though. I think it was hip hop videos and celebrities who started becoming popular back in the late 90s (like Jennifer Lopez and Serena Williams) who made the butt more popular with all men. Not just black and Latin men. I'm not taking shots at anyone's race but in the past the breast and butt thing was cultural. In my teens and 20s I was more into the "ghetto booty" (for lack of a better expression. But as I grew older and had the chance to be with some of those big booty women intimately, I learned that bigger isn't always better. Some of those "thick" women had stretch marks, cottage cheese prints and sagging in the rear that you couldn't see when they had their clothes on. Now I care more about the roundness than the overall size of it. I can appreciate a smaller butt as long as it's bubble shaped and round. Give me a woman with the athletic butt of a track star, volleyball player or a gymnast over the strippers and video vixens (though some of them can be nice too). To this day I don't really care about whether a woman has big or small breasts and I don't know how to tell what a woman's breast cup size is. If she has big breasts, fine, but I'm more into the butt. But overall, the size of the butt doesn't matter if the attitude of the woman is stank. I like approachability and intelligence over anger and arrogance. She can be fine as hell but the personality needs to be on point as well.

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  12.   ozzyyooo says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 15

    As long as she has a butt and a nice personality I don't care!

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  13.   kelvinbest says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 15

    I completely agree with your articles. I'm attracted to healthy women period. Race doesn't effect my decision.

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  14.   DeltaFox26 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 15

    I love dark-skinned women. The darker the better. This being the case, I must disagree. I only want to date black women...

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  15.   HeartForU5 says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 15

    We all like what we like, if they are big than ok, if not that's cool too. I'm not going to pick a D cup over a B cup, I will be fair and get to know the person for who she is.

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  16.   Inshadows69 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 15

    I have never really been overly fussed by the size of a women's bust. For me, as long as she is happy with me stilling a glance and (when appropriate) enjoys having me touching them and stimulating them during sex. Then their size is irrelevant.

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  17.   FranzCesko says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 15

    Actually they are really the last thing I check... I don't even notice if I am missing any photo where I can determine the size... I completely don't care about it

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