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Back to basics in the New Year

Posted by Leticia, 14 Jan

Happy New Year...it is that time...time to change the batteries in your smoke alarms and vibrators and update your profile on the site.

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Happy New Year...it is that time...time to change the batteries in your smoke alarms and vibrators and update your profile on the site.

  • Are you being cute and clever, funny and fashionable or somber and serious? What mood are you setting and does it really speak to who you are? If your best friend read your profile in a group of ten, could they pick yours out without your help? Check your grammar and spelling. We don't want nerves or rushing to come across and stupidity or lack of education.
  • Be specific without being creepy about what you are looking for in a mate. There is nothing wrong with having a certain preference, don't let anyone tell you that you are being anything other than who you are when it comes to knowing what turns you on.
  • By the same token, it's also a good thing to mention a few things that you don't like. Especially if it's a deal breaker. If you don't like or ever want children, that's an important thing to mention up front to eliminate any single parents that may take interest in you. You can say what turns you off without being rude and offensive to others.
  • Be sure to update or add new photos to your profile. I don't know about you but I don't even respond to people without a picture on their profile. How serious can you really be if you don't have one?
  • Please reserve the "find out later" for the special things that you would really prefer to share with those that you have an interest in. Not everything should be a mystery. We want to know if we have things in common with you before we make the first move to speak.
  • Don't be afraid to make the first move. Somebody's got to do it why not you? Something as short and simple as a hello, you caught my eye is a great way to break the ice, without falling in.
  • Try several different searches. Your zip, your home state, a certain age group, people that are in the chat rooms. Create your own method and system and do not be afraid to try something new or talk to someone that you never thought you would have anything in common with. Love lurks in the strangest places at times.
  • Most importantly have fun. It's only internet dating. Be smart and never include your personal details too soon. Be weary of people that want to take you off site. There are security measures set up here for your protection - use them.
  • Be honest while realizing that not everyone else is all the time. With that in mind, protect your information, your well-being and your heart. Be cautious about moving too quickly off-line too soon. You'll know when the time is right.

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  1.   nicefella15 says:
    Posted: 25 Apr 08

    OHHHHH YOUR IN TROUBLE UNME!!!!

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  2.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 25 Apr 08

    Ohhh yes i did sweetnes!!!

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  3.   sweetnes20 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    OMG, no u didn't unme....lol

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  4.   unme232 says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 08

    Who u kidding Fala, they have one named after you, the Falainator...lol

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  5.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 08

    That's creepy Fala! True dat unme

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  6.   Fala says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 08

    What's a vibrator?

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  7.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 08

    IM WITH YOU MOSSIMO....LOL

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  8.   nicefella115 says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 08

    I hope you wouldnt make a comment about a vibrator, mossimo.

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  9.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 08

    Im sure it was a thought not a comment...lol

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  10.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 10 Apr 08

    I like you sweetnes...thoughts drifting...did someone make a comment?

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  11.   sweetnes20 says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 08

    I guess nobody likes my vibrator comment...lol

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  12.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 07 Apr 08

    Check yours Fala! Batteries that is

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  13.   sweetnes20 says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 08

    ohhh boy, vibrators...lol

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  14.   CRYSTIE says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 08

    GREAT ADVISE I JUST THINK IF YOU PRESENT YOIRSELF BASED MORE ON ADVISE THAT WHAT AND WHO YOU ARE...YOU'RE WISTING YOUR TIME,BECAUSE YIU HAVEN'T EVEN ALLOWD THE OTHER PERSON TO GET TO KNOW "YOU" I SAY CHECK ANY BAD HABITS YOU MAY HAVE AND DATE AS "THE BEST YOU" !

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  15.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 08

    Sounds like another odd topic on the blogs....vibrator batteries

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  16.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 08

    poor fella, maybe next year...lol

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  17.   NICEFELLA115 says:
    Posted: 08 Feb 08

    NEW YEAR, SAY OLE LIFE AND RESULTS.

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  18.   Fala says:
    Posted: 08 Feb 08

    Batteries? Vibrators? what are you people talking about????

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  19.   sweetnes20 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    i have some batteries for you guys.

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  20.   nicefella115 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    omg sharon..............lmao

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  21.   PattyCake48 says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    LOLFOTF!!!

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  22.   Sharon says:
    Posted: 05 Feb 08

    Change the batteries in your personal tools...what a scream! I can go one better... Get a 12 volt car battery so that you have to kick start that sucker.... Smiles, Sharon

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  23.   nicefella115 says:
    Posted: 05 Feb 08

    now, that is funny!!!

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  24.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 04 Feb 08

    Change the batteries in the vibrator? Now that one was not only funny, it was useful...LOL!

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  25.   Fala says:
    Posted: 02 Feb 08

    Still haven't updated my profile yet. Maybe next year I should resolve to stop procrasinting!

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  26.   Fala says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 08

    Good point Sharon.

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  27.   Sharon says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 08

    Face it ladies we are apples and oranges...it is hit or miss...men are mostly visual..that is why Playboy and Penthouse are so popular...put up a good pic and you are 1/2 way there! Southern smiles and world peace, Sharon

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  28.   Fala says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 08

    I usually dust off my profile around this time of year, but I'm not convinced most men even bother to read it.

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  29.   Sharon says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 08

    I don't know if I would go as far as this peice does...face it ladies...if it is over a paragraph...MOST men are asleep at the wheel and thinking... blah, blah, blah, blah, blah! LOL Selective reading and reading... Basic traits...I have no children and I can cook...LOL Good luck in your search! Southern smiels and world peace, Sharon

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  30.   Sharon says:
    Posted: 17 Jan 08

    This is all great advise... Keep up the good work... Southern smiles and world peace, Sharon

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