Blah, Blah, Blah enough talk... Can we just F*&!
Not all relationships are fair or equal...when it comes to sex that is. Every relationship is different because every couple is different. We all have different sex drives, different erogenous zones and even different turn-offs. Some of us want it and could have sex every single day. Others are happy with once or twice a week, month or on a yearly basis...Parrish the thought. It's orgasmic bliss when both partners are on the same page. It's frustration and pure hell when they are not.
Let us just say there are no medical problems that we are dealing with. That becomes a different issue with a special set of rules. We'll naturally assume that both parties have a reasonable amount of attraction for the other. If the problem is your lack of desire, it would be a good idea to think about your own "emotional feelings". I have to say especially women. If our emotional needs are not being met, usually, we are not very enthusiastic about having sex.
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It's important to say right now that that doesn't apply to all women in all cases. Truth be told, I could have just had the biggest most emotional tear jerking, name calling, silent treatment having argument and after it's over (and sometimes right in the middle of it), if I want it, I don't have a problem doing the do. But, hey that's just me.
If on the other hand you or your partner only wants sex, chances are that it could be an attempt to replace some other need (that's not being met). Not a good thing. Communication is extremely important. The two of you must talk about your needs, wants and desires. Perhaps you or your mate needs a break from the usual and an introduction to some new and spicy experiences...with each other. Sex can be a truly beautiful thang between two consenting adults. It can make a good relationship great. However, sex alone will not save a relationship. In most cases it just prolongs the inevitable. What do you do if you are not in a relationship and your sexual desire is still going strong? Well, there are several options available to you and perhaps even a few more depending on where you live. The obvious would be to "help yourself". You know your body and how to satisfy your sexual cravings better than anyone.
There is always the option of finding a very "good friend" that is in the same (non-relationship), state that you are in and can handle a sexual relationship with the understanding that "it is what it is". There are several risk involved with this so make sure that all "consenting adults" are in agreement to exactly what the rules are and above all else be sure to use protection, on your privates and your heart.
Last resort, well, you can plan a trip to Rhode Island, Nevada or go outside the U.S. and visit places where prostitution is legal. Do something you never thought you would..."pay for it", we all do one way or another. OMG, I did not just tell you that...don't worry...if they ask, I ain't telling. That sounds like another article; I'll get to work on that. Enjoy yourself...really! Don't forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain...play it wisely.
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southernmoca says:Posted: 25 Apr 09MMM, read the articles and the comments so I may seem a bit unloyal to my gender when I say this. My fella and I communicate, we even do the pillow talk thing. But sometimes we just want to rip the clothes off and screw like bunnies and when we come up for air, realized how much furniture we've broken, then we say " Hi -how was your day" , its just part of the kind of relationship we both want and enjoy. Talk isn't always needed every time you want to get.........closer
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 27 Apr 08Where is sweetnes when I want to find her? lol Unme got all the girls haven't you heard yet, nicefella?
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lovely2see says:Posted: 16 Apr 08
Oh, Girl if I could find a man to meet my needs and perish the thought to a man who would be satisfied with sex only a few times a week. Its nice to know I'm not alone in my gender when it comes to labido.
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nesha86 says:Posted: 13 Apr 08
The emotions behind the sex are sooooo important I can't even express it. You can't expect the sex to be anything but bad if you don't have that emotional connection.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 05 Apr 08
Oh yes sweetness! Lets bring those two together! Who's with me?
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swwetnes20 says:Posted: 04 Apr 08
They sound like a match made in heaven...lol
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 01 Apr 08
Go for her unme!! The merger fell through coz of corporate malfeasance.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 27 Mar 08
Yes Nicefella, the Fala and mossimo corporations are going through a merger with the CEO to be named later. Of course, if its not me, then I may have to trade Fala for a lady to be named later
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DesertRose09 says:Posted: 26 Mar 08
i have been both in relationships and have had the whole friends with benefits ordeal, it all depends on the people involved. some people do enjoy sex but don't want the commitment of being in a relationship. some of those friends with benefits have been quite good at being respectful and not rushing things, on the other hand ive dated men that want to rush the bedroom scene, so i guess for me it all depends on who i am with and what the situation is surrounding our sexual encounters
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3dsports says:Posted: 26 Mar 08
U have to know your mate and understand what's needed and what may be required
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Jeff2555 says:Posted: 25 Mar 08Most men fail to realize the importance of setting a romantic mood and setting, gently talking and sharing thoughts and feelings, and seeing the sexuality of a woman as something to appreciate, love, and satisfy. But then again, "most men" good grief, just don't have a clue. Jeff2555
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SWEETNES20 says:Posted: 24 Mar 08
I blah, blah blahed somebody this weekend....lol
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snehaseeli says:Posted: 06 Mar 08Intelligently written. Very true - I could have a Mt. St Helens of an argument with the person I'm involved with, but my mind is not on getting even, so sex communication is usually very good.
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Darklicious says:Posted: 05 Mar 08I agree with MissLady1970, who in the hell just want to be used for sex. If the guy just wants me for sex, I would never allow it because men that are like that usually are immature and they kiss and tell. It's nothing wrong with not giving in to someone on the first day, at least you leave still feeling good about yourself. I have been called everything from stupid to a lesbian just because I didn't do it but those guys still end up respecting me. So you girls need to listen to a southern belle and just start holding out stop being a blanket or piece of carpet allowing everybody to lay on you.
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jade74 says:Posted: 04 Mar 08Welcome back Cocokisses.We have missed you here.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 01 Mar 08Nobody likes to be used for sex, but if both parties understand whats goin on then.......
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misslady1970 says:Posted: 26 Feb 08I INTEND TO MAKE IT AS HARD ON A GUY AS I CAN WHEN IT COMES TO JUST A SCREW.IF I FEEL THATS ALL THEY WANT, TRUST ME THEY'LL NEVER GET IT AT LEAST FROM ME.I THINK TO MUCH OF MYSELF ,THEN JUST THAT!!!!!!!!!!
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dark1ande says:Posted: 21 Feb 08Sex. Love. Romance. Mental stimulation. Bubble baths. It's all so confusing.
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Fala says:Posted: 17 Feb 08
LOL@Mossimo, Unme, Coco and Sweetness - what would these postings do without us!
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nfl24 says:Posted: 15 Feb 08OOOOOOO, I am tell mamas people out here having sex.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 12 Feb 08
We got to have some fun on here. Too much seriousness at times on the blog.
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cocokisses says:Posted: 10 Feb 08Fala, Mossimo, Unme23...you guys are cutting up out there! Way to go on keeping the boards fun :) I miss you guys!
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C says:Posted: 10 Feb 08
There are times when itust gets "standard" yu either need a new trick or some "Blah,Blah, Blah"
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roycerolls says:Posted: 06 Feb 08I have never stayed with a woman that gave in too quickly!! I do want her to stimulate me mentally and I won't allow her to do that if she gives in too quickly. I'm always thinking who did she stimulate this quickly before me and who might she be stimulating while I'm at work!
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