Blah, Blah, Blah enough talk... Can we just F*&!
Not all relationships are fair or equal...when it comes to sex that is. Every relationship is different because every couple is different. We all have different sex drives, different erogenous zones and even different turn-offs. Some of us want it and could have sex every single day. Others are happy with once or twice a week, month or on a yearly basis...Parrish the thought. It's orgasmic bliss when both partners are on the same page. It's frustration and pure hell when they are not.
Let us just say there are no medical problems that we are dealing with. That becomes a different issue with a special set of rules. We'll naturally assume that both parties have a reasonable amount of attraction for the other. If the problem is your lack of desire, it would be a good idea to think about your own "emotional feelings". I have to say especially women. If our emotional needs are not being met, usually, we are not very enthusiastic about having sex.
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It's important to say right now that that doesn't apply to all women in all cases. Truth be told, I could have just had the biggest most emotional tear jerking, name calling, silent treatment having argument and after it's over (and sometimes right in the middle of it), if I want it, I don't have a problem doing the do. But, hey that's just me.
If on the other hand you or your partner only wants sex, chances are that it could be an attempt to replace some other need (that's not being met). Not a good thing. Communication is extremely important. The two of you must talk about your needs, wants and desires. Perhaps you or your mate needs a break from the usual and an introduction to some new and spicy experiences...with each other. Sex can be a truly beautiful thang between two consenting adults. It can make a good relationship great. However, sex alone will not save a relationship. In most cases it just prolongs the inevitable. What do you do if you are not in a relationship and your sexual desire is still going strong? Well, there are several options available to you and perhaps even a few more depending on where you live. The obvious would be to "help yourself". You know your body and how to satisfy your sexual cravings better than anyone.
There is always the option of finding a very "good friend" that is in the same (non-relationship), state that you are in and can handle a sexual relationship with the understanding that "it is what it is". There are several risk involved with this so make sure that all "consenting adults" are in agreement to exactly what the rules are and above all else be sure to use protection, on your privates and your heart.
Last resort, well, you can plan a trip to Rhode Island, Nevada or go outside the U.S. and visit places where prostitution is legal. Do something you never thought you would..."pay for it", we all do one way or another. OMG, I did not just tell you that...don't worry...if they ask, I ain't telling. That sounds like another article; I'll get to work on that. Enjoy yourself...really! Don't forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain...play it wisely.
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76 responses to "Blah, Blah, Blah enough talk... Can we just F*&!"
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snehaseeli says:Posted: 06 Mar 08Intelligently written. Very true - I could have a Mt. St Helens of an argument with the person I'm involved with, but my mind is not on getting even, so sex communication is usually very good.
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Darklicious says:Posted: 05 Mar 08I agree with MissLady1970, who in the hell just want to be used for sex. If the guy just wants me for sex, I would never allow it because men that are like that usually are immature and they kiss and tell. It's nothing wrong with not giving in to someone on the first day, at least you leave still feeling good about yourself. I have been called everything from stupid to a lesbian just because I didn't do it but those guys still end up respecting me. So you girls need to listen to a southern belle and just start holding out stop being a blanket or piece of carpet allowing everybody to lay on you.
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jade74 says:Posted: 04 Mar 08Welcome back Cocokisses.We have missed you here.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 01 Mar 08Nobody likes to be used for sex, but if both parties understand whats goin on then.......
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misslady1970 says:Posted: 26 Feb 08I INTEND TO MAKE IT AS HARD ON A GUY AS I CAN WHEN IT COMES TO JUST A SCREW.IF I FEEL THATS ALL THEY WANT, TRUST ME THEY'LL NEVER GET IT AT LEAST FROM ME.I THINK TO MUCH OF MYSELF ,THEN JUST THAT!!!!!!!!!!
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dark1ande says:Posted: 21 Feb 08Sex. Love. Romance. Mental stimulation. Bubble baths. It's all so confusing.
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Fala says:Posted: 17 Feb 08
LOL@Mossimo, Unme, Coco and Sweetness - what would these postings do without us!
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nfl24 says:Posted: 15 Feb 08OOOOOOO, I am tell mamas people out here having sex.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 12 Feb 08
We got to have some fun on here. Too much seriousness at times on the blog.
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cocokisses says:Posted: 10 Feb 08Fala, Mossimo, Unme23...you guys are cutting up out there! Way to go on keeping the boards fun :) I miss you guys!
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C says:Posted: 10 Feb 08
There are times when itust gets "standard" yu either need a new trick or some "Blah,Blah, Blah"
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roycerolls says:Posted: 06 Feb 08I have never stayed with a woman that gave in too quickly!! I do want her to stimulate me mentally and I won't allow her to do that if she gives in too quickly. I'm always thinking who did she stimulate this quickly before me and who might she be stimulating while I'm at work!
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KIKIDALLAS says:Posted: 05 Feb 08I THINK THAT PPL ARE FREE TO THINK AND FEEL WHAT THEY WANT. BUT I AM ONE OF THOSE THAT PREFER TO WAIT A WHILE NO MATTER HOW ATTRACTED I AM TO THE OTHER. SO TO EACH HIS OWN.
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UNME23 says:Posted: 04 Feb 08
wow her brain, i would have said sum thing else!!!
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 02 Feb 08
Just like old times! Unme, Fala, and Cocokisses tearin it up!
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 01 Feb 08
Remeber Fala, your most important sexual organ is your brain! Now where did I leave mine?
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Cocokisses says:Posted: 29 Jan 08
What ever happened to romance? The biggest turn on for me is someone who is romantic. A hot bubble bath, a glass of wine, soft music and a massage with warm oils goes a long way folks. After all that, you don't want to have sex, you want to make love! That's the kind of man my new hubby is :)
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 28 Jan 08
Now Flames, that is no way to talk about Fala!
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Hannah says:Posted: 27 Jan 08
First of all, everyone should make it a priority to get tested. The US has the highest rate of STDs in the industrial world. The most popular STD Chlamydia is called the "silent STD" because 75% of women and 50% of men who contract it will never show symptoms. Sure you'll look and feel healthy but you'll still be able to spread this and if left unchecked, you could be made sterile by this. 1/4 of people with Herpes, never show symptoms but will still be able to pass it on. The only way to know your health status is to get tested. Don't believe that only people who look unhealthy or who "sleep around" need to get tested. Respect your body. If a man says he wants a long term relationship but won't even take the time to get tested, he doesn't care about himself or you. If he's pressuring you for sex before or after testing, then you know he's interested in sex rather than a genuine relationship. Be smart. Live Longer. Get tested.
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Fala says:Posted: 27 Jan 08
How about this one: Hey Mister, you smell like sex, wanna f*ck? or am I mising the blog with the magazine???
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 26 Jan 08
Come lecture me Fala!! I will give you my address!! hehe
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nick86 says:Posted: 22 Jan 08
I agree at sometime in our lives we need to figure out what we really want from our partners. Some of us want just sex but are afraid to admit it and are scared of the consequences (rightly so). Men are just more open about their lust. The problem (issue) with women is we need emotional stimuli to do the deed. (well that is). Heck with it I agree pay for it!!!
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Sharon says:Posted: 22 Jan 08
If I may suggest that everyone slow down and get to know each other better...then you will be able to understand each other better... Southern smiles and worlsd peace, Sharon
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tigerlilies says:Posted: 21 Jan 08
People spend too much time screwing than finding out who they're doing it with, so when they really get screwed - they wonder why.
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girlsixdiva says:Posted: 18 Jan 08
I agree with the point the author made when she said "If our emotional needs are not being met, usually, we are not very enthusiastic about having sex." Unfortunately most men I've met want to have sex right away instead of taking time to get to know me. But I'd rather be alone instead of giving in and regretting it later.
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