How to talk to women online
You have seen someone you really like and you have flirted with them and they have flirted back. Now what?
Remember that you are "talking" to a female online and that all they are reading is your text on their screen. Make what you say meaningful.
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Ask questions, but don't make her feel like she's the subject of a Spanish inquisition. Never EVER ask questions about her body parts or compliment on her assets unless she's willing to volunteer that level of information. Ask probing questions like how do you feel about....? What do you like best about...? Quick messages like "Hi", "Saw your photo and thought you looked good" , often tend lead to "Hi" and "Bye" replies or no replies at all.
You must capture a woman's mind before you will ever capture her heart. If you are in chat, don't just be silent. Remember, she is sitting at her computer waiting for you to talk to her. If you are a slow typist, tell her so she can be patient. Better still, consider purchasing a webcam and microphone so she can see and hear you and you won't have to worry about trying to keep up.
Be truthful about your intentions, read her profile and make sure you are both looking for the same thing. She will be very angry at you if she finds out later you have mislead her about ANYTHING. If you are looking for a short term relationship and she is looking for a life partner, then chances are that feelings will be hurt. If you have other important relationships on the net or in life, TELL HER NOW so she knows where she stands. Ask her the same questions about her love life and intentions. SHARE something from your heart with her FIRST, THEN ask her to do the same. In the long run she'll respect and trust you more for being open and honest.
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 30 Jan 07Nice article...wish I would have read it sooner.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 05 Jan 07Great advise! Keep up the good work and articles...
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unme23 says:Posted: 15 Dec 06
well, they say men are mars and women are from venus
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nicefella115 says:Posted: 14 Dec 06so much for above comment, i better read the article again.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 29 Nov 06
Great article. Have heard some real horror stories from ladies about guys wanting to see body parts or expose themselves upon initial contact. Good luck guys!!
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sweetest1 says:Posted: 10 Oct 06Hint #1.... don't just look at the pictures!!! There is so much more to a woman than how she looks!
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Fala says:Posted: 03 Oct 06Be yourself. Leave the lines for the singles bar. Women are smart and we've seen and heard them all before. And it's always best to be honest.
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charlee1 says:Posted: 03 Oct 06the one thing that is sure to turn me off is when a guy asks me what i'm wearing, and this is usually after a couple of sentences! you usually know what the question after that will be. there are so many dishonest people online. they join these dating sites with only one intention, and that is to deceive as many people as they can in order to get some kind of cheap thrill. a decent conversation always works for me, especially if the person can make me laugh.
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Marquez097 says:Posted: 21 Sep 06
Just be real with what you say. If you can't be real with a woman online, the lies will catch up to you in person...that is if you ever meet.
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JADE74 says:Posted: 12 Sep 06Very good article. SteelerTini very good points....Most don't read the profiles just picture looking and say the wrong things. A big turn off for me is approaching me sexually from the first contact.
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Coco says:Posted: 29 Aug 06I have a dilemma...I met some one online when I wasn't really looking, and found out last night when chatting that he is middle eastern. Now with all the crazy things going on in this world and our country, I don't know if its a good idea to continue our chat. He is not a resident of the USA and needless to say not a citizen. I am paranoid but don't know if i should just relax or what. I don't wat to stereotype but you never know what someone's intentions are...please advise!
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ray says:Posted: 29 Aug 06
let me school you guys on something i really know i have gotten burn by a woman before #1 always read the profile first , #2 read what she is saying and just don't read study the profile very very carefully#3 look at the picture#4 ask yourself is your type or not #5 flirt or email her keep it simple#6 wait for her to respond back#7 get to know her, but let me school on one more important thing is thats women knows what to say to a men to get his heart and one more thing be very very careful of women writes poetry those arethe thing we want to her and then you get caught up with a trick bag woman who out there to any man and just looking out for herself and will hury you real bad it happen to me so be very very careful........ray
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Steelertini says:Posted: 31 May 06
This is a great article. There is nothing worse than someone who comes on to strong and too sexual in the first three seconds of a conversation. When a man doesn't READ a profile to see if there is any compatibility it says something negative. When he does read it and sees he is outside of what she is looking for, it screams negativity. I always say that a person should approach and speak to someone online as if they were standing right in front of them. If there are things you wouldn't say in person? Don't say them online.
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