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Is interracial sex better than sex with someone within your own race?

Posted by James, 29 Sep

The other day, I google searched interracial sex… all I got was a massive array of porn sites (what was I expecting anyway?). Well, I was hoping to get some insights on the above topic.

Have you ever had sex with someone outside your race? Would you be interested in having sex with someone of another race? Is interracial sex a taboo to you? This is a very controversial topic. “Why the hell would someone prefer to have interracial sex?᾿ most people may ask.

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The truth of the matter is that the US is a culture obsessed with interracial dating and interracial sex, in particular, – both positively and negatively. Going by the history of the slave era white people spoke with repulsion about interracial sex - even though many white men were constantly having sex with black women. In this “colorblind era᾿, people are still obsessed with interracial sex.

According to a poll done on the blog, majority (67%) of the people that participated in the poll said interracial sex is better than sex with someone within their own race and 15% said it wasn’t better. The rest either never had interracial sex or same race sex.

Adult sex dating among interracial singles is much in practice especially among liberal communities and long-term relationships or matrimony is quiet popular. With the internet being a general platform that brings all types of people, cultures and societies together, we need not emphasize the kind of catalyst it is for those interested in interracial dating and sex… it is a well-known fact.

Most people may decide to try out interracial sex just for the kick of it or out of curiosity. This has brought about statements like “once you go black you never go back᾿ among many others. Given the sexualization and stereotypes surrounding interracial sex, we find most people… especially in their teenage and college life engaging in interracial sex just to prove and disprove such statements.

Most people may not publicly say “interracial sex is: bizarre, disgusting, exciting, adventurous, morally repugnant,᾿ and so on. But when people get behind closed doors with their family and friends comments like “That black dude must have really been packing some heat below the belt. Why else would those white women be interested in black men᾿ or “Only white women with no self esteem will get with a guy like that.᾿ When they go online to search for interracial porn, they are thinking it… and don’t get me started people expressing their thoughts with by leaving anonymous comments on blogs.

So what is wrong with enjoying sex with a person of other race?

For some reason, people think interracial sex is exotic and daring… especially when it involves Black men and white women and Asian women and white men. It’s almost like people believe that race is correlated with penis size and a person’s level of sexual desire. But are people who engage in interracial sex are deviant, rebellious, daring, gross, odd, oversexed, and ugly as most people believe?

If you’ve had interracial sex already, how good or bad were the encounters? Is it possible that they had everything to do with the guys’ or ladies’ performances, and not the person’s races?

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  1.   Snowflake3130 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 09

    Have dated a guy outside of my race and a black guy... I must say that being with the other guy was much better then the black guy I was with.. The only reason for that was he took the time to make sure I was feeling aright,and he put my needs in first. The black guy was all selfish and on a mission, there was almost no foreplay or any heat of the moments, if there was it was a short kill.. I think some black men just dont take the time with their women, and they have this automatic theory since they have bigger or fat penises they know that the sex is better. So I believe Its the the mind set and depending on the person you are with.. I believe that if you are with the very mr.right or ms.right the sex will be just perfect period.. But thats hard to find that eh??

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  2.   MsZ17 says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 09

    YES! The best sex I ever had was with my Korean boyfriend. He had this long, straight black hair that he always wore in a ponytail, just a little bit of hair on the chest, not a lot of body hair overall. Something about the Asian body type really turns me on. I have dated mostly non-black men in California. My ex was an Italian from NYC. His brother and cousin both married black women! I think it's all about aesthetics, too: the hair, skin contrast, body, lips, (obviously for me, eyes), everything. Characteristics different from what you have. I STILL have wet dreams about sex with that man! Also, Mr. Queens, please do not bash Bamaboy because you know just as well as I, that there are black men who have so-called fetishes about white women. White men have them for Asian women, and so on and so forth. Natural human sexual curiosity and it's not a crime. Besides, the woman has to agree, ya know!

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  3.   sisi19 says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 09

    I gotta say once you go black you never go back , maybe. But once you go white you know you been l*cked right! Whew! Honestly, the once you go black part is for him, because I am a young black/mixed woman in her early thirties and I can honestly say I have never had sex with a black guy. Only white. I was a virgin until I was twenty (religious reasons) and I was saving myself for my husband. I know it sounds old fashion, but it's the truth. Mr. right just happens to be white.

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  4.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    Ionaford, "...their attitude to women lacks somthing, as previously stated in these blogs, they have an animalistic approach to relationships - or is that just the guys I have met so far.." Yes, it is just the guys you've met so far. Here's a tip. Fine tune your search filters, hold off on the sex until you are sure there is really something solid to base a relationship on. You're suffering (maybe not suffering from your position) from a condition called "Jungle Fever". People like to joke about it but you most definitly have it... BAD (or good). Good luck in your search!

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  5.   Ichibod says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    I agree. There are a lot of black women who might get off on your topical impressions of them, but many may begin to wonder, "Is that it? I do have an education. I can cook, clean, and balance a bank account." Does your mother have fake lips? Does she want a bronze tan? Call up mom and tell her you love her for all that she is, has ever been, and ever will be... right before you introduce your black girlfriend to her. I do however believe your attraction to black women is genuine. Go gittem Bama!

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  6.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 09

    Dear Bamaboy You was doing good until you dissed your own race of white women. What do you know about black women other than "lusting" for their body. People might think " I am picking on you". Just in general, is there more to black women their body and "electric sex"? I never hear a white boy say " I went to church" and met a black woman on the choir and I fell in love with her voice. You have a sick fetish for black women sexually. Good day to you

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  7.   bamaboy2009 says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 09

    I'm 33 and I grew up in Alabama. While in high school I was on the basketball team. I was the only white guy on the team. When we had practice all the black girls would show up and watch. The more I was around them the more I was attracted to them. I never pursued any of them. I figured since I was white I didn't have a chance. I LOVE black women. I wont look twice at a white woman yet any other race. I appreciate beauty when I see it. But black women have an essence about them that is unique. White women get fake lips, want bronze tans and so on. Black women are born with it. The sex is electric. Not to mention the curves they are born with. If god made something better than black women he would have kept it for himself. Black women are in a league of their own. I think they are second to none. I will never date another race.

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    • SouthernNC says:
      Posted: 28 Jan 12

      I as a black woman appreciate you southern men. Talking to a guy right now. I love to hear his drawl. I bet girls "die over" you. :)

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  8.   Sweis says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 09

    That's an interesting conclusion...I especially like what you're saying here in the last paragraph. Nice Saturday night reading :)

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  9.   ionaford says:
    Posted: 31 May 09

    Comment by godiva61 on 6 May 2009: Since when does the color of your skin, enhances one’s sex life? Oh it so does! I only have to see the black hand on my white thigh and I am off lol I sampled black for the first time 2 years ago and will now 'never go back' for my sex that is lol Sex with a black guy is simply amazing, they way they move, feel and smell ... mmm! That said, their attitude to women lacks somthing, as previously stated in these blogs, they have an animalistic approach to relationships - or is that just the guys I have met so far.. I do hope so, that is why I am on this site, hoping to find the man that has the capacity to love and respect me but with the 'animal' inside lol

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Ionaford....Your cute, you gave me a few nice laughs and giggles, thanks. I am a Black woman and I'm sure you will find the right Black man for yourself, just keep in mind the qualities you require!

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  10.   godiva61 says:
    Posted: 06 May 09

    Since when does the color of your skin, enhances one's sex life?

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  11.   webhero says:
    Posted: 04 May 09

    I've read thru alot of these comments and I must say that my opinion about interracial sex is slightly different. Let me say that I've dated women around the world of different races and believe that there are definite cultural differences, but it ultimately depends on how well the couple mingles with each other. My best sexual experience was with a mixed women. She's black and white. How does one explain that race makes a difference there? I'm a black man btw.

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  12.   Fire321 says:
    Posted: 02 May 09

    I'm a woman who has dated men of different races and when it comes to sex, there really isn't a big difference. I personally thinks it boils down to the connection you have with your mate. I will say that(from my own personal experience) I find white men tend to make you feel wanted and desired on a different level than with any other race I've dated. White men are not afraid to openly show affection (outside the bedroom) to their mate which is a major turn-on.

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  13.   strega2008 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 09

    It's interesting to note what women (in particular) have to say about men of their own race - very common are statements that men of another color treat them with more respect - I am one of them! I am white and have been treated better (in every aspect) by men of color. My theory is simple - we covet that which is different than what we are accustomed to and place more value on (once) unconventional relationships. Perhaps it's the contrast of the skin color that is exotic - such contrast amalgamating and fusing into one is very arousing regardless if you are white OR black. Then again, perhaps it's a preordained evolvement based on a yin/yang concept - the contrast of black and white, each with its own similar shape, yet only becoming the "whole" while molding to each other AND with one piece of the other (maybe the heart) encased and protected within the core of the opposite. Philosophically, one could argue that interracial relationships were predestined and that we are just recently evolving to accept and appreciate the differences. Regardless, I find myself more aroused, more excited by men of color and feel as though I am respected and cherished more. The reasoning behind it? That is subjective to each individual person and couple. But, it is truly a blessing!

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Strega2008.....I am a Black woman and I find a lot of possible truth in your postulations! Particularly, taking in view that the human species is all one race that merely shows varieties due to the different climate of groups since their travel from Africa during the Ice Ages and Europe having the longest Ice Age, greater than Africa and Asia; hence, the Europeans (Whites) have the greatest depletion of melanin, which is the major difference of variation between human groups. Interesting also is that scientists have discovered that the chemical melanin has other properties, not just skin tanning but also electrical, rhythmic and insulation; a type of melanin compound is used to insulate the wiring on our ships for outer space travel.

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  14.   prettybrowneyes says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 09

    tyrmusician, could'nt agree with you more. LAMO@ 'Do sort of wish all the extreme racists could be brought together in one place and bombed into dust'.

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  15.   tyrmusician says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 09

    Personally I don't know which may be better, but part of the reason I came on here is cause I got tired of seeing only white, asian, and latin girls on the site I have been going to. I was even a tiny bit disappointed when I got messaged by a white girl, but to me, anatomically a woman is the same, and color doesn't really matter to me. If you love each other, why should someone's comments or opinions matter? Do sort of wish all the extreme racists could be brought together in one place and bombed into dust.

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  16.   Rainer says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 09

    …my girlfriend white (and meanwhile fiance) went astray with a thai gigolo boy during our Thailand holidays some times ago. She enjoyed her tropical love experience very much, he had temporarily a good income and after the first night with her he made it absolutely clear to me that he will stay exclusively “in charge” for my girl as long as we are in Thailand. The young thai taught me a bitter and humiliating lesson just in front of my girl!I did not dare to confront him, being demoralized and humiliated I let it finally happen. He insisted to respect HIM as the sole lover of my girlfriend, only then he accepted my presence. Interestingly my Claudia, who does not like any macho-behaviour back in Germany at all, was totally fascinated by the thai-macho grip and let it all happen. I asked myself to how many white foreigners and their european girlfriends something similar happens in Thailand and went public (google:”my girlfriend had paid sex with a thai boy”) but there are hardly any honest replies but mostly angry insults from white males. So I believe this must be a big taboo for western men to loose their white females to male prostitutes in developing countries, especially if the lovers are young asians, who are usually not even taken serious as competitors for white women. After having sex for the first time with a young asian money boy who was maybe in his early twenties, I know this experience has become so important for Claudia's sex life that she will not refrain from it anymore and will look occasionally for suitable partners. But at least, we can now talk openly about it... Rainer

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Rainer...sounds like Thailand was a terrible experience for you but I'm glad your able to handle it so well!

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  17.   pcd22 says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 08

    Wow I've been reading through some of these comments here and I'm quite amazed. Ultimately all men and all women are the same no matter what race. Great sex depends on your feelings towards each other and how comfortable you are with the person your with. As for comments by this person - "Comment by Black-n-neva'-goin'-back on 22 April 2008:" about white women, you obviously always been turned down by white women hence all the hate. These blogs here seem to carry a theme, there's alot of hate towards Black Men & White Women , by their own races,

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 08

    I really don't understand what that man from the islands aka(The Caribbean)was talking about, that "caribbean women are not open to sex or relationship with men of different races", WRONGGG! where I'm from we love men of different races. I don't know what island you are from, but the island I am from we like Hispanic men, Indian men, White men, and Asian men. So thats just probably the women in your country. And the comments made by (are u serious) I NORMALLY DON'T DATE BLACK MEN, BUT I GAVE MY EX-BOYFRIEND A CHANCE, AND HE WAS THE MOST: LAZIEST,IGNORANT,ARROGANT,ABUSIVE,UNAPPRECIATIVE MOST DISRESPECTFUL ASSHOLE I'VE EVER MET IN MY LIFE! I'VE NEVER BEEN CALLED A "B***H" IN MY LIFE UNTIL I MET HIM. HE NEEDS TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR, BECAUSE I'M NOT THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM. WHENEVER HE CAME OVER MY HOUSE I MADE SURE HE HAD FOOD. I TOOK CARE OF HIM, I HELPED HIM OUT A LOT. GROWING UP IN THE CARIBBEAN I WAS TAUGHT TO TAKE CARE OF MY MAN. AND HE DIDN'T APPRECIATE ANYTHING I DID. AND SEX WITH HIM WAS TERRIBLE. HE WOULD ASK ME TO BE "OPEN-MINDED" AND TRY NEW THINGS. WHAT FOR! HE COULD CARE LESS IF I WAS SATISFIED. BUT I'M OPEN-MINDED NOW FOR MY NEW BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE TAKES HIS TIME TO SATISFY ME, SO I WANT TO SATISFY HIM. AND TO SAY THAT WHITE MEN JUST WANT TO SHOW US OFF TO THEIR FRIENDS. PLEASE! BLACK MEN DO THAT WITH WHITE WOMEN, THEY ALWAYS HAVE TO SHOW SOMEBODY "LOOK WHAT I GOT" I HAVE SEEN IT. THEY TREAT THEM LIKE TROPHY'S. MY EX-BOYFRIEND NEVER WANTED TO HOLD MY HAND, HE ALWAYS DISTANCE HIMSELF FROM ME, BUT WHEN I SAW A WHITE COUPLE IT WAS ALWAYS P.D.A. MY NEW BOYFRIEND TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN AND YES HE'S WHITE, I MET HIM IN THE MILITARY. SO STF UP! ABOUT BLACK WOMEN NOT DOING "THIS" AND "THAT". I'VE NOTICED IN THIS COUNTRY MAJORITY OF THE TIME A BLACK MAN/WHITE WOMAN RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT LUST OR HAVING A BLACK D**K IN BED. IT SEEMS TO ME THAT BLACK MEN JUST F**K... AND WHITE MEN MAKE LOVE. p.s. MY BOYFRIEND IS AMAZING!!!!

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 08

    As an European guy I've different aspect to interracial marriage. One year ago I traveled Malawi. There, in counryside, I met an African lady. She is wonderful! She is everything a man needs! Perfect for me! She is real black, skin is deeply dark. She is fat with feminine way:large breasts, large bottom, soft belly. I appreciate she never shave her body, she has thick, rough hair largely around lower part of body. Armpits are full bushy. Her body parfume is REALLY strong. She was shy first times we were close together because she was smelling so strong if taking shower. No she understands I love her musky African aroma. In sex she gives me anything I need. She never hasn't received cunnilingus or anilingus, now she loves that most. The same with anal, first she accepted finger, now 'studying' penis intead. We're going to marry. As you know, Europea visa -rules are strict, so it takes time to make arrangements. But we will do!!

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      I really pity this Black woman, it sounds like you see her as an animal and want her in order to use her for brutal animalistic sex and thats why she's "perfect for you". Anal sex is very painful for a woman and physically destructive but, sounds like you intend to give her a lot of it. I believe in interracial romance and had a very enjoyable, romantic and sexual experience with a White guy I dated. But, IMO, you sound like the racist type of White guy which is why Black women have to be very careful in what White man they choose to date.

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  20.   Member says:
    Posted: 29 Oct 08

    WOW!!!! I CANT BELIEVE WHAT IM HEAING FROM MY BLACK LADIES! BLACK MEN HAS STOOD UP FOR YOU SINCE THE BEGGINING OF TIME. TO SAY THAT BLACK MEN ARE NOT PASSIONATE ENOUGH IS PLAIN IGNORANT! PERSONALLY THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH INTERRACIAL DATING, HOWEVER, PUTTING BLACK MEN DOWN IS JUST NOT RIGHT. I COULD LIST MANY THINGS I DONT LIKE ABOUT BLACK WOMEN AND WHAT GOES ON IN BED. YES WHITE WOMEN SEEM TO BE MORE OPEN MINDED IN BED....UHHH BLACK WOMEN???? I DONT THINK SO! HOWEVER, THE SIMPLE FACT THAT SHE'S A BLACK WOMEN, MAKES SEXUAL INTERCOURSE MORE INTIMATE! FOR ALL YOU BLACK WOMEN OUT THERE WHO THINK BLACK MEN AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU, TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND FIND OUT IF YOUR THE PROBLEM AND NOT YOUR BLACK COMPANION. AND ON TOP OF ALL THIS....MOST WHITE GUYS HAVE NEVER DATED A BLACK WOMEN, SO DON'T BE SUPRISED IF YOUR JUST A TROPHY FOR ALL HIS FRIENDS TO DROOL OVER OR HAVING A HARD TIME BEING ECEPTED BY HIS FAMILY!

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  21.   Princess says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 08

    I'm a light skinned Puerto Rican female, and I love black men. Not just African Americans, but they can be black puerto ricans, cubans, dominicans, ect. The fact of two different colors coming together in sex just turns me on. Interracial sex is awesome! I love it! =]

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  22.   yryrizaaol says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 08

    I wouldn't know. I never slept with a white girl, and I only dated one white girl for a very short time 4 years ago.

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  23.   prettybrowneyes says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 08

    OMG! whitemen do it for me and do it WELL! my husband is white, and the absolute best sex i have ever had was with whitemen. whitemen are more gentle and wanting to please you, and they love making and seeing their women come. when my husband first kissed me. THE EARTH MOVED!!! the sex? good lawd!

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Prettybrowneyes...You Go Girl! I as a Black woman, thrill to see a sista made happy by her man, it is so rare! I hope your wonderful relationship lasts forever!

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  24.   naturalcd says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    Wow, this is an interesting blog. Perhaps some of you were lucky enough to chose a great partner and because he/she was another color, you made a blanket statement and said all black women are....or all white guys are.... I have had awful, I mean awful sex with black and white men. And, I have had great sex with black men. The white man I am with now, I have the greatest sex with. You know why? Not because he's white, but because he is gentle, passionate, and attends to my needs before his own. Could I have found a black guy who does the same? Maybe so. But I'm not going to make a blanket statement and say that white men have the best love making skills....it's just the man who I have had the best sex ever in my entire life happens to be white. Thanks NaturalNana for making this sex issue clear.

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  25.   NaturalNana says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 08

    Sex is sex regardless of who you have it with. Some men have the patience needed to explore what turns a woman on and some couldn't care less.

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  26.   poetlove says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 08

    I will say different, but different doesn't constitute better. Sister have shapes that I think only can be described as a blessing. White women have very soft palms which does make for some great things. Latina's have shapes similiar to sisters with a little more fire. Asians are perfectly petite. All have great characterisics , but none more so better than the others. When you merge emotions,attractiveness, . I wll say though that jet black skin is and Aphrodisiac

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  27.   ref1224 says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 08

    I was married for 24 years to a white guy I am also white. For the last 4 years a dear friend now my boyfriend, my lover and my best friend kept telling me, I was worth more than the abuse I was getting at home. Finally he asked me out, just for a quiet dinner and nothing else. I asked for a divorce the next day. I dated him not because he is black, but because he saved me. He dates me because I am worth saving. We both agree that we have the best sex together. Were not sure if our race has anything to do with it. We just know that together we are happy. In April I was in a car accident my car rolled over on the highway and landed in a swamp. He called me about 30 seconds after the crash, he said he could feel I needed him. His car hit an elk on a highway last night about 11:00pm I wake up out of a sound sleep and called him. Sometimes you are connected by race, being phyically attracted to someone and sometimes you are connected with your soul.

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  28.   Derek880 says:
    Posted: 30 May 08

    I have found that sex with White women has been better than sex with Black women. They are more open sexually and seem to really enjoy it more passionately. White women don't worry about silly things, like whether or not you've messed up their hair. Also, they tend to be much better at oral sex than Black women, who tend to be too uptight when performing it. And while a Black woman may be better at being rhythmic during sex, if you train a White woman to do the same, there is nothing in the world like it! Or maybe it's the black male sex organ that gets her so worked up.

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  29.   Black-n-neva'-goin'-back says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    Most black chicks I've been with say that me being white doesn't matter. However,I know that I prefer them being black. I like the whole 'ebony and ivory' thing I guess. The contrast of our skin together is sexy imho. I've heard them say that white guys are more romantic though, and they probably like the fact that we are a tad more refined and sophistacated than many of our African American counterparts (no sagging pants here). Are black chicks better in bed? From my experience, yes. They typically have better bodies than white women. And think about it....have you ever seen how well black chicks gyrate their hips and booty when they dance? Well they also do that well in the bedroom. White women can't seem to do that for some reason. And those lips on black women...man, what a gift to men. White girls for the most part have "muppet mouths", no lips. The way I picture it is that God made the perfect sexual specimen in black women. Then he sucked out all the shape, color, and flavor and what was left is white women. LOL

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  30.   JohnDConkera says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 08

    Been coloring outside the lines since high school. You don't have sex with a race or culture - although it does play a role, but it's all in your mind. It's the - umm - interaction between you two(or whatever the number :-) that makes sex good or really good. No such thing as bad sex.

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  31.   MsDiva says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    This is stupid .. Sex is Sex whomever you are having it with. You people are brainwashed into believing a myth and this is why this world is messed up because of stupid fools like you... I wish you all could go to a island of stupidity were you all can live free and be dumb fools...

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  32.   Nku says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 08

    I find that sex is best between two people who are in tune with each other. Having had relationships with men from both sides. One thing is for sure, we have to lose the myth that white men can't handle black women some sure can.

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  33.   NV_ME2 says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 08

    SOOOO I have been talking to this one white guy for about a month or so. He is very smart down to earth and I find him very attractive. I personally have never had sex or dated a white guy, not b/c I dont want to but it seems as though they are too shy to approach me. The opportunity has never presented itself. (By the way I am African American), So finally he and I went out on a "date", hung out and discovered we had lots in common. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex that night. I was soo turned on by his blue eyes, dirty blonde hair, the contrast of our skins on top of eachother it was great. He took his time, had lots of foreplay before and he got the job done. We are still "dating", and it has been a wonderful experiance. He made sure that I was pleased before pleasing himself and for that I had a wonderful experiance. Not to put my brothers down but, AA MEN you gotta start taking your time and asking us what we like.

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  34.   Eastern_leader says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 07

    I am an Asian Man, I think having sex with different race is different feeling. It all depends on your feeling, attachment, attraction to that person, whether she is wife, asian, hispanic, or black. I personally attracted to White and Hispanic woman. They are sofer, more body structure. But, I also enjoy my own race. I never put down of my race because it is my element. But, just like going to Outback Steak, chilli, or Chinese restaurant is different for each experience. You cannot put a taste to it whether which one is better than the other assump all of them are the same level. It is all your mindset. I go to club, I dance and go after girls people never thought of as an Asian man. I am aggressive, use the same tactic as the White or Black. There isn't any different except people generally think Asian man is not powerful. But, when I get to them w/ them. I rock them like hell and give them a good time. It is your mindset that controls your emotion, physical, motive, etc. I would not be anything less than anyone. I have good self esteem.

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  35.   nocolor says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 07

    Wow, What one thinks can go a long way. If you're black and your mate is white and of course vise vers and you want to think sex is gonna be better it will be just based on the limits your mind has set. But I keep going back to this thought that is broder then most can comperhend when you love someone really really love someone no matter the color or nationality the sex will always be great but you have to love yourself first then that person as you would yourself then the sex will be exquisite but this is the real clincher sex will not be the most dominate thing about the relationship its being in sinc in spirit with the person loving that peson for who they are not for the fantasey of sex w/someone outside my culture. Your love in your affections will show outside the bedroom.

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  36.   George says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 07

    Hey guys and gals, what's all the argument about? Ok, let's be fair, I am African, from east africa. and I have lived in different places, had sex with almost all races, and though I can never claim to be an authority there, I will agree with some and not others. Black sisters, you tend to go for white guys, really, and I'm glad the sex is better for some there. Brothers, you too tend to levitate towards them white sweeties, and true, the open-ness and liberal attitude is a great turn-on too! Plainly, sex is in the mind, if yours is looped out, you might never find out what you wanted to begin with! All the same, we brothers need to be more sensitive to our ladies' needs. Communication is vital to a woman, black or white, and all in between, and white dudes are much better there than most of us. Also the preludes, (fore-play), hey, she's ain't a bike to jump on and ride!!! Well, personally, the best sex also proved to be most scaring, I mean, when the lady wanted to kind of maul and digest me! And I have had it from across the divide, ask them that's had me, I am a catch, lol, see ya people.

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  37.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 07

    Am with Jim; am not going back either LOL!!!!

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  38.   willy says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    well as a white male i have only dated black women all my life. it nothing personnal white women have just never caught my eye.im been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now and this is her first interracial relationship. she tells me as well as her friends that the communication is better and the attention she needs is always there. she told me she never been happier in her life and i plan on keeping it that way

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  39.   Jim says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 07

    I believe that interracial sex is better because the partners BOTH have a desire for someone of a different race. It enhances the experience. We all have our own personal reasons, turn ons and fetishes. Some of those are valid and some are just fantasies, but those reasons get validated when we couple with another person with similar desires. Then the experience is heightened. I'm a white male with a strong attraction for black women in general. I love the contrast in skin color. Yes, it's definitely a big turn on for me when making love to a black woman. I think the mutual desire to please each other makes it a very powerful experience. I've discovered the "good stuff" and I'm not going back.

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  40.   lilhotCuba18 says:
    Posted: 05 Nov 07

    I agree with muscles4u the colors make me horny as hell when there laying aginst on another! I'm a latina "CUBAN" and you I have had problems with black men okay I have not ever had a problem with a white guy preforming oral sex on me,and most black you might as well forget it but thay alway want you to preform on them I can stan it but the most romantic guys ladies are the white and the Hispanic trust me I'm not a whore but I'v dated a lot of guys and the race of guys that I'll always stick with is white and hispanic.

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  41.   theamazin1 says:
    Posted: 04 Nov 07

    I personally have always dated black men and have never been with a white man, but I cannot imagine that the color of ones skin can determine the quality of ones sexual experience. Yes true may be that the color difference may be intriguing but does not affect the quality. Sensuality, passion, and romance come from within the heart not the skin color.

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  42.   muscles4u says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 07

    I'VE ALWAYS HAD BETTER SEX WITH AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN AND FOR ME THE CONTRAST OF OUR SKIN TONES WHILE ENGAGED IN INTERCOURSE IS A REAL STIMULANTE.....

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Muscles4u,..I completely agree, skin tone contrast is an absolute turn on and the skin on the White man, its texture, specifically his penis, feels so smooth, like velvet. I'm a Black woman and had one sexual experience with a White guy, it was dyno-mite. I don't presume all White guys are the same but, that experience sure entices my curiosity to venture further.

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  43.   ivorysilk says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 07

    I know that most of my life I have been attracted to Black men, it is not just a sexual attraction, but something much deeper..if I could put into words it would be SIMPATICO...it just feels right. Black men are such sensual beings, and in my eyes they know how to make you feel like a desired woman.

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  44.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 07

    Personally, i don't see a difference between blk love and er...wht love. If anything, i would say that it is asthetically pleasing to the eyes. For example, when the fingers are intertwined, the bodies are meshed together and you both are trying to please each other; it is a freaking turn on Also, having a mirror in the room doesnt hurt either,(lol)I had a short term fling with a well endowed Polish man last spring;it lasted for 3mths. I guess you could call him my "spring fling." At one of our many love makings, he started speaking in his native tongue. Of course i had no idea what he was saying, but it made me feel good, because i guess i was laying it on him good. BIG LOL!!!! ps. he gives great full body massages after every session!!!!!!!!!, now beat that with a bat or a polish sausage, LOL.

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  45.   T says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 07

    To this day I cannot say what particular 'thing' attracts me to white men but to say that there's always been 'chemistry' there. I don't find the love making different, it just depends on the sensitivity & style of the man. If you're turned on by your partner, the sex is going to be explosive no matter who they are!! It just so happens that my boyfriends/lovers have mainly been white. I DON'T REGRET A MOMENT OF PASSION W/ANY OF THEM!! I have noticed that there are cultural 'taboos' that make love making different at times. White men & black men can be just as freaky, timid, experimental, aggressive & wild as anyone! So, if you're w/a person who 'TAKES YOU THERE'....WE THEIR A.. OUT!!! Here's to healthy & happy sex EVERYWHERE!!!

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  46.   MATURENOTOLD says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 07

    HELLO THERE...I AM A BLACK MALE FROM THE ISLANDS. I`VE BEEN AROUND AND FOR ME PERSONALLY, RACE DOES NOT DETERMINE THE QUALITY NOR STANDARD OF SEX. I`VE HAD GREAT SEXUAL PARTNERS WHO WERE BLACK, WHITE, INDIAN AND AMERIANDIAN, ALSO TERRIBLE LOVERS FROM THOSE SAME GROUPS ALSO. IT ALL HAS TO DO WITH WHAT YOU DESIRE, WANT, NEED,LIKE, DISLIKE ETC. SO TO SAY THAT SEX WITH BLACK MEN/WOMEN IS BETTER THAN SEX WITH WHITE MEN/WOMEN OR VISE VERSA, IS UNFAIR TO BOTH RACES. I LIVE IN SWEDEN AND MY OBSERVATIONS ARE THAT THE AVERAGE WHITE GIRL/WOMAN, TENDS TO BE MORE OPENMINDED ABOUT SEX AND WILLING TO TRY NEW, WHEN COMPARED TO THE AVERAGE ISLAND WOMAN WHO IS NOT. THESE DIFFERENCES ARE CULTURAL AND PERSONAL AND DEFINITLY NOT RACIAL MOIVATED, THE WAY I`VE SEEN IT. I THINK WE SHOULD ALL BE JUST HAVING AND ENJOYING GREAT SEX WITH OUR PARTNERS, REGUARDLESS OF RACE, SKIN COLOUR AND/OR NATIONALITY.

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  47.   Michael says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 07

    Just to toss my two cents worth in here in regards to the responses so far, is that you are speaking of characteristics of these individual men. I have plenty of white lady friends that have the exact same complaints about the white guys that they have had sex with. I would say that in general, the majority of men (and this has been substantiated through conversations with many ladies) is that most men are in it for themselves, Black or White. For me, I have a natural attraction to Black ladies, so that sex with a Black lady has the added attraction level there which just by its own nature makes for more enjoyable sex, but there is nothing that I have found that is inherent in the physiology of Black or White that makes it better... It all comes down to if that person turns you on.

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  48.   Teri says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 07

    I agree with jayzgurl. I've dated and preferred white men for a very long time. I can't see me dating anyone else but the sex is always great. It seems like they are in another league and put more effort into pleasing me than pleasing themselves first. If I am wrong, then Black Men, step up! There's alot of respect and responsibility there when white men perform. I guess it's the way they are. I love it and want them to keep up the good work!

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    • skygal says:
      Posted: 23 May 13

      After reading All of the comments so far (very interesting) I've come to the conclusions that human beings will always desire that which they cannot have- the forbidden fruit. And it will always taste sweeter than any fruit you know you can have at home for free. It also seems like people change their behaviour when dating IR. I mean come on all white men can't be so good in bed- if so how come there are so many divorced white women gushing about black men in bed. My theory is the very presence of someone being the opposite or different race to you makes you behave differently to how you would have otherwise. You better yourself, maybe because at the very back of your mind you know that you are Representing your race. So you want someone to leave with the impression that your race is actually great contrary to popular belief :-) Black men yeah hahaha they seem to really change their colours when they date outside their race. Suddenly they make an effort both inside and outside the bedroom and become better versions of themselves. I don't think it necesarily has to do with b@**y black women either. I guess the moral of the story is for people to stop taking each other for granted- open your eyes and appreciate what you have regardless of colour

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  49.   Jeanette says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    And girl dont i agree with you.I feel you. Though i must say not all black guys are like that. The few i did date, did pay much attention to me when they knew they would want some some later. otherwise was forever with the boys, not spending time with me, and once when i was going through the painful heartache of a miscarriage, 2 days later still depressed over the whole situation, I needed to talk to him about it and the response I got was "I will get very angry if you bring that up again". Not that i had said anything before. I found a listening ear from someone who had been a long time friend who is white. And we did hook up eventually and still together :) :) The brothers need to be more sensitive emotionally and in every aspect.

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  50.   jayzgurl says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    I am a black woman and my boyfriend of two years is white. For me, it was a breath of fresh air. Now, I'm hopelessly attracted to blond hair and blue eyes! I have been married and divorced twice from black men. I find that sex with Jay is better not just because of perofrmance, but because he treats me with such sensitivity and respect during the natural course of the day. He view it as a PRIVILEGE to be with me. Are you serious!? Blacks guys assume that it's YOUR privilege to be with THEM!! When it finally comes around to sex, I'm willing to give him whatever he wants. My exes didn't pay attention to me until they wanted sex, which didn't put me in the mood at all!! He's more nurturing and caring and that makes sex even better!! If any guy can master the art of making your mate happy, then they'd all be sexual dynamos regardless of race. I must admit not being the "normal" American couple is a turn on. We get looks when we're together in public and that makes us want each other even more (Bonnie & Clyde). Not to mention, with him I found out that I have MULTIPLE orgasms!! I'd say I'm quite happy!!!!!

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    • DEmma says:
      Posted: 19 Jan 11

      Jayzgurl, I sure do envy your present relationship. I am a Black woman and the experience you had with Black men has been the usual for my experience, they are so arrogant, thinking their dick is god almighty gift when its not and the only time I ever experienced an orgasm or any real passion was my one sex with a White guy, and he did no oral sex, which I also never got from Black guys nor was he a super dude performer and his penis was the normal average size. But, Damn the man had me screaming and his penis felt like smooth velvet. I'm beginning to wonder if there is a biological difference in the races, cause no Black man's penis ever felt like that nor so good and I've had a few Black men who had large penis, but it just felt uncomfortable. Sometimes, I wonder if its the abundance of melanin I have in my body and in my vagina versus the almost no melanin he, as a White guy, has in his body; that maybe when these two contrasting of chemicals meet during coitus a powerful chemical excitement is ignited. Anybody, got an opinion on that?

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