Would their exes ruin this romance?
When “Tayza010” met “Mr. Vi,” sparks flew. But how did these profile handles and the people behind them come to be on our site? Here’s LaTayza’s recollection… “I somehow came across the interracial dating page on Facebook and was wowed by the stories, so I decided to follow the page. Later, I decided to join the international dating site.”
Was she an online dating newb? “Yes, this was my first experience with online interracial dating, and I’m happy to call it my last,” beams LaTayza.
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Vitali (“Mr. Vi”) was also new to this but thought that our site would give him better odds of meeting someone. “I decided to try it because, why not? Girls don’t talk to me in real life because I’m ugly,” he laughs. “So I gave it a shot!”
Going in, LaTayza worried this whole thing might be a waste of time. “To be honest, I wasn’t sure what to expect,” she tells us. “I pretty much thought I would only chat with a few people here and there, and never make it past that point. I was also a little skeptical I was going to meet someone in person, because the whole thing was so new to me.”
Vitali saw this as a complete “Hail Mary” play. “I wasn’t confident at all to find my love. I thought it was a joke!”
Given their trepidation, it is kind of funny that it took LaTayza just a month of membership to find Vitali. He had barely logged in, before that. “I was on the site maybe half a year, but I didn’t really use it before we started talking,” admits Vitali.
So how did that happen? “I ended up sending Vitali a Flirt,” LaTayza reports. “He responded ‘yes,’ he was interested. And it just went from there.”
Several things about Vitali sparked LaTayza’s interest. “He was good looking, for one. Haha! His profile didn’t say much, only that he was from Russia, kinda new to the country, and looking for a nice family-oriented girl. It was like a mystery I was ready to solve. I love the result.”
Vitali felt drawn to her right away. “I saw her pictures and was like ‘wow, she is hot!’ I fell in love just seeing her pictures.”
They didn’t want to rely entirely on lenses and screens, of course. “After Skyping every single day, I’m pretty sure both of us grew tired of just seeing each other via video — well, at least I was,” laughs LaTayza. “When we talked, he actually put effort into his conversations. Later we joked about driving and meeting each other halfway, but ended up doing it one day as a spur-of-the moment kind of thing. The night before I asked him and he said yes.”
Vitali nods emphatically. “I loved everything about her. I knew I was ready.” LaTayza remembers the excited rush that preceded their meeting. “We both got ready within hours and drove a little over five hours,” she says. Vitali jumps in there to add, “I drove to Pennsylvania from New York and she from Indiana. It was such a long drive, and I was on a motorcycle.”
Before Vitali arrived, LaTayza had to get her head right. “I was soooo nervous. I arrived before him, so I anticipated the moment and had to get my nerves together before he showed up. But I thought, ‘I can’t believe I get to hug you in person!’”
Once LaTayza’s nerves were under control, their time together was very relaxing. “We met in a small town in Pennsylvania at a park, where we had a little picnic,” she says. What surprised her the most about this experience was “How kind he was. He was everything I expected, and just how he portrayed himself on Skype. His accent was heavy because he’s from Russia, but I had gotten used to it by then. And his eyes were even more gorgeous in person!”
After the success of their first date, the duo felt certain they would do this again. “I wasn’t only sure I wanted to see him again, I knew he was someone I wanted to spend my life with,” declares LaTayza.
Vitali gazes affectionately at his partner. “I enjoyed every second with you, even though I was tired and sleepy as hell.” He tells us that he didn’t have any doubts about his desire to proceed. “I knew I wanted to be with her, and that I already loved her.”
There are almost always obstacles in a couple’s path, and this case was no exception. “He kinda had a crazy ex-girlfriend, which was quite an obstacle,” LaTayza laughs. “And of course, getting used to the distance was a challenge.”
Vitali had his own view of it. “My obstacles were her ex and thinking that some guy would try to steal her from me because I wasn’t there with her,” he says, voicing a concern that many in long-distance relationships share.
But no exes or new contenders could tear these two away from each other. The sometimes-bumpy road led them to a happy destination: engagement! “He asked me on Skype, just joking to see what I would say, but when he asked in person I knew he was serious,” LaTayza informs us.
Vitali will never forget that day. “I asked her in Washington, in front of the Lincoln Memorial,” he says. “I wanted to get married then and there and just go sign some papers, have a big wedding later, but we decided to wait.”
Now that they’re betrothed to be married and this relationship is as solid as the stone of the Washington Monument, LaTayza can reflect on how her life has changed. “It’s changed my life because I feel like I don’t have to look for love any longer and go through the horrible dating process. I’m positive that this guy is gonna be by my side forever. This is only the beginning… Thanks to you guys!”
“She changed my life because she’s the girl I’ve always been waiting for. I’m a little upset it took her so long,” laughs Vitali.
We asked LaTayza if Vitali was her type, or if she had to learn to appreciate his good qualities. She ponders that before answering. “Well I don’t really have a type, except that he’d have to be somewhat attractive in my eyes, and a guy who could make me smile and laugh. He did that so constantly my cheeks would hurt from smiling so much!”
Vitali wouldn’t change anything about LaTayza. “She is exactly what I expected,” he says. “She has a beautiful smile. She’s smart, tough, kind, and takes care of herself. She makes me smile and sings for me. I love everything about her.”
Here are a few words of encouragement for singles still looking for “The One” online. “I say, never say never,” LaTayza opines. “Anything could happen! You might meet your Romeo or Prince Charming online. Don’t knock it until you try it. Going online is one of the best things that ever happened to me. There’s someone out there waiting for you, it just takes time and patience.”
For LaTayza and Vitali, their patience was rewarded.
797 responses to "Would their exes ruin this romance?"
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Skinsosoftas says:Posted: 28 Jan 16
Great stories but from my point of view the ex's are there pass and they are each other's future and as long as they set boundaries and keep them there pass should not affect there future....just saying
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--KEEPER-- says:Posted: 25 Jan 16
... I was thinking 50/50 - and still am. If this is true its an awesome story tho.
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rined says:Posted: 22 Jan 16
Wow!it sounds like a dream come true bt that is what destiny had for this lovely couple,IMPRESSIVE
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Bigbelly79 says:Posted: 19 Jan 16
Hello dear friend, I really appreciate your efforts, and I will be glad if I could find someone who will willing to build a future and family with me, and understand each other better
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phatima1394 says:Posted: 13 Jan 16
So beautiful can't wait for mine
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07959 says:Posted: 09 Jan 16
Woooo so lovely all the best
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Achy990 says:Posted: 06 Jan 16
Looking forward to meeting my own. #teampositive
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kessewan1 says:Posted: 05 Jan 16
hope to find someone who love me too here
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Bonbon24 says:Posted: 07 Jan 16
hey wer you from ? by the im brian message me in this email [email protected]
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Fikilicious says:Posted: 29 Dec 15
Wow that's wonderful .
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Bigbelly79 says:Posted: 19 Jan 16
Every body needs somebody, two flash will join together one day and live as destiny lover, if you don't mind, let try to share some word and see if we might have thing in common
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fayounane says:Posted: 24 Dec 15
Espérons que sa dure qu'il trouve le bonheur
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bensonjack29 says:Posted: 18 Dec 15
That's a very nice one i can't wait to have my too.
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Obe1kanobe says:Posted: 17 Dec 15
What a beautiful love story. I can only hope to be as blessed as V is.
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tinta35 says:Posted: 09 Dec 15
Never
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Bigbelly79 says:Posted: 19 Jan 16
Never say never, if you don't mind, let try to share some word and see if we might have thing in common.
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arriene says:Posted: 07 Dec 15
nice lovestory...hope i got mine too
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BrendaStarr says:Posted: 01 Dec 15
Very nice story with a happy ending. I was gonna cancel my account after two days but I may wait a little longer now. Best of luck to both of you.
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No wouldn't ruin my ex he I'd native american and I am black just wouldn't go to his wedding because I am still in love with him