Goal Setting: How to Get What YOU want
We always hear about people setting their career goals or educational goals. What about goals for your family. It could be spending more time with your aging parents. Perhaps you're considering starting a family of your own. Are you prepared for that emotionally and financially? What systems must you put in place in order to be ready and GET WHAT YOU WANT in 2007?
Happy 2007! This is Leticia and it's literally the first day of the year and I'm doing well with my non-resolution Resolutions for the New Year. I've made the decision to NOT make a resolution, a decree, a declaration, a ruling, a promise a pledge or any other synonym that pops up when I look up the word RESOLUTION.
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When it comes to setting goals for the family it's only a matter of thinking of where you want your family to be in five years. Write it down. I think that it's easier to start with the five year plan, because I heard someone say once, that...
"What you are doing right now will determine where you are and what you will be doing five years from now"!
When I really think about it and look back on my life five years ago, those words are true. All the things that I did or didn't do had a way of manifesting itself in my life today. The things that I planned either came out just as planned; or it was better than I imagined. The things that I didn't plan; didn't change or the situation got worse.
So, once you know where you want to go you can better determine how to get there. Some family/home goals may include taking the family on a vacation and learn about a different culture or learn more about your family's history. Buy your first house or just a bigger one. Maybe the kids will be gone in five years and you want to down size to be able to go on a sabbatical to Spain for a month.
If that's the five year goal, perhaps a three year goal would be to learn to speak a foreign language. Save money for the trip. The one year goal would be to get your paperwork in order. Start getting in shape so that you can bike around the countryside. You get the idea. I've already done my goal setting for my five, three and one year plan. Now I'm down to my monthly goal list and for this first month of 2007 it's all about...my "3-W's":
W-1 WATER...drinking more of it everyday. I know how drinking more water makes me feel. My skin is clearer and glowing even. I don't retain water because my body is getting enough and I like the idea of flushing the toxins out of my body.
W-2 WORK OUT...I always feel so much better after a work out...even if it's only a 30-minute walk on the treadmill. We all know the benefits of working out we just don't make the time to make it happen. Check out the article on being fit and fabulous in 2007.
W-3 WRITING...every year I tell myself that I'm going to write something every day. The fact that you are reading this is due to the realization of one of my goals.
Now if you have a family the "I" becomes "We". The key once again to setting any goal is to WRITE IT DOWN. Once you see it in writing it becomes real. With setting goals that involve other people (i.e.) family/friends etc., make sure that all involved want the same things. Otherwise you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Be sure that your goals are in sync with each other. Any conflicting goals are another set up for disaster. It would be rather hard to reach your goal of losing 25 pounds with your mate, if their goal is to be a desert taster for the local bakery.
Think it through, write it down, and confer with others involved. Most importantly, do something EVERY SINGLE DAY to bring you closer to achieving that goal. Remember this...
It matters not what goal you seek
Its secret here reposes:
You've got to dig from week to week
To get Results or Roses.
- Edgar Albert Guest
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Majestic says:Posted: 22 Mar 07
TO generic1977, what were your goals? and who spoiled your goals.
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Coco says:Posted: 13 Mar 07My goal today is to flirt with as many men as I possibly can on this site. Who knows when a simple flirt can turn into something more!
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justknowingu says:Posted: 09 Feb 07good article...set small goals...and go from there..to get to the bigger ones!
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 08 Feb 07Often times success comes through failure. Go ahead and reach for something which may appear unreachable. Even if u do not attain it you will have reached higher heights.
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 08 Feb 07
Remember never count your chickens before they hatch.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 06 Feb 07Having goals to aim for is good, but don't feel you have failed if you don't reach them. Just try your best.
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GENERIC1977 says:Posted: 04 Feb 07
IVE WORKED HARD ON MY GOALS ONLY FOR SOMEONE TO SPOIL THEM
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 03 Feb 07
Remember whenever you set a goal don't forget plan B just in case it's not reached.
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Fala says:Posted: 03 Feb 07Thank you Just. Now if I could just follow my own advice . . .
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justknowingu says:Posted: 31 Jan 07
I agree with fala....you just have to take the initial steps and set things in motion!
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NICEFELLA115 says:Posted: 30 Jan 07being supportive of each other is very important.
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Fala says:Posted: 29 Jan 07
Thinking it through, writing it down and getting input from others is really good advice for making your dreams into reality.
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justknowingu says:Posted: 29 Jan 07
great article..my main goals for 2007 is simply to "be closer" to family...the other areas of my life I will just be "prepared for"--and perhaps good luck will come my way---in terms of special relationship!----
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besweet says:Posted: 27 Jan 07Good Article, everyone should set goals and follow though. Thats the hard part,for me anyway. I make a goal with plan A,then plan b , c , and d. Of which none of them work out ever for me. So in the end I just wing it and figure out a new goal. How come it can be so easy for some people to get where they want to go in life????? Don;t I get major points for constantly trying?????still dreaming and working on it.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 27 Jan 07
I am well on my way to my opening my second group in my work. So ha! to all those folks who said I wouldn't do it or said something childish and stupid.
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Natural72 says:Posted: 27 Jan 07
Making goals in fine as long as they are realistic.
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 24 Jan 07
Hope everyone obtains all their hopes and dreams for 2007.
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 24 Jan 07
Above all to thine own self be loving and true.
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sweetnes20 says:Posted: 23 Jan 07
very interesting, something to think about.
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maishagal says:Posted: 22 Jan 07sounds like a NewYear's resolution! nice article...
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 22 Jan 07
Take care of number one first then execute plan B.
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Cocokisses says:Posted: 21 Jan 07
Great article. I will set a goal to start setting more goals!
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sugababydoll says:Posted: 21 Jan 07
This is true. I always set 2 sets of goals for myself. Long term and short term. The short term ones ultimately help me get to the long term ones, but are more reasonable than the long term. It makes me feel like Im getting somewhere :)
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turbogirl says:Posted: 20 Jan 07
Think high! Aim high! Set a goal, achieve it...
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lizzy2005 says:Posted: 19 Jan 07
Sometimes it's hard to stay positive. But I find when I do I am able to deal with things a lot more easliy and effectively.
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texasbest says:Posted: 18 Jan 07
Whatever goals I make ,I make sure I finish them.
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Pleasjure13 says:Posted: 18 Jan 07
This article can only assist one in being openminded.
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mossimo36 says:Posted: 17 Jan 07Thanks for sharing those thoughts. Truly worth reading. I want to stop being so redundant...so redundant
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Coco says:Posted: 17 Jan 07
I always set goals. That's how I have achieved everything I have. Start small and always DREAM BIG!
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Mzcherokee says:Posted: 17 Jan 07
I have found this to be so true. If you stay positive about what you want and the way you get it then you will get it.. Pray and thank GOD for giving you blessings before receiving them and it will happen..
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maishagal says:Posted: 16 Jan 07
I liked the introspective style with this particular article...nice work!
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