Menu

Glad I found my husband before that Blonde!

Posted by Queenb, 27 Oct

Since I met my husband online, people are always asking me how we met.  Old folks are shocked when I tell them.  “That really works?” is something I hear from the older marrieds.  People under 50 are hip to it, but it’s amazing how many of my single girlfriends don’t want to pay for a membership!  I roll my eyes and remind them what it did for me...but the fee of less than a dollar a day—what they charge at the best sites—is not the point.  For God’s sake, my Starbucks habit puts that to shame!  No, it’s part of that traditional gender role thing, where women instinctively expect to be courted from start to finish.  You shouldn’t have to pursue anyone and romance shouldn’t have a price tag attached.  I get it.  As the song goes, “they say all the best things in life are free…” Well, they must have entered an arranged marriage.

Anyway, my friends will pay big bucks for pilates, mani pedis, waxing, gym memberships, shoes and skin cream.  Many of those things are purchased with the admitted ulterior motive of helping them land a good man.  But subscribe to a dating site?  “No, I shouldn’t have to do that.”  You have to pluck your eyebrows, do endless ab crunches and overhaul your wardrobe every season, but another little fee on your credit card?  That’s too much.

Find your soulmate on Swirlr

Join Free

Ladies, we can’t wait for Prince Charming to ride up in his white Mercedes.  Time flies and we have to be proactive.  Like anything in life, if you want something, you have to take action to get it.

For me, I used to think going out was that action.  But I gave up my club-girl ways because so many of the guys I was meeting were too aggressive.  I felt like an antelope being tussled over by lions.  I tried online dating when all that stopped being so much fun (plus, the hangovers were making me substantially less fabulous).  I bought a subscription because whether it’s a marathon, a promotion or a man, if I’m going for something, I’m going for it.

It was nice to feel safe and sound at my computer instead of vulnerable to the clumsy mating dance of some guy who’s had enough Red Bull and vodka to grow horns.  Online, you can talk to anyone you want and wear your p.j.s while you do it (until graduating to video chat, which is awesome, but does require the appropriate pre-chat preening).

If I’d had a free membership, I don’t know if I would have ever met my husband because I’m the one who contacted him (he says he would have found me, but I have a hunch he was chasing blondes before we met).  You see, free members don’t get to pick who they talk to.  They can reply to a message or send a flirt, but they can’t email someone directly.

When I found my future husband’s profile, I just knew he was special.  I couldn’t understand why he was on the site, let alone single.  I was sure he’d be gone the next day, snatched up by some woman who couldn’t believe her luck (probably a blonde).  Now, I have a certain type and I know that not every girl would swoon for him the way I did, but all I knew was I didn’t want to let this catch bite another hook while I was sitting here hoping he responded to my generic flirt.  Thank GOD I was a subscriber and could write to him right away.  He answered within an hour.  We had our first phone conversation about three hours after I saw his profile for the first time.  Our first date was two days later, on Friday, and by Sunday night I was canceling other dates.

Sometimes, you just KNOW.

I don’t even know why people bother with free memberships.  It sends the message that you aren’t serious about your search for “The One.”  Do you think my husband I sit around the house saying “I wish we hadn’t had to pay those subscription fees for the site that brought us together?”  Yeah, no.  Do we wish we’d met at the grocery store or at church instead?  You just don’t think like that when you’re in love.  You’ll take it any way you can get it.  You’re just happy to have it…

Life isn’t picture-perfect and neither is romance.  But once love is yours, anything you had to do will seem well worth it.

Related Stories

More Advice Articles

7 responses to "Glad I found my husband before that Blonde!"

Leave a reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

  1.   Friendly13 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 10

    I really like the title of this story and especially the ending. I am glad I joined too.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  2.   ipickyou says:
    Posted: 29 Nov 10

    I could not wait to write him. I flirted no less than six times waiting for him to write me and give contact information. Flirted again and again. I paid. I wanted to let him know I just may be his only one. He wrote a lovely response at last. He may have gone around the "world" and back...back to me. He makes me weak and shiver. I know this feeling. It"s love. Oh please let this be my success story. To be continued...

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  3.   2sexyb says:
    Posted: 28 Nov 10

    There really is no point to the free membership except to find out if you are interested in joining. Limited search and communication capabilities is pointless. If a person is serious about real communication, they will join even if they cancel it later. If you are not single and serious, all roads lead to nowhere.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  4.   kissime says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 10

    ♥ I Want Lovey-Dovey Kisses ♥

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  5.   KayLoveee says:
    Posted: 06 Nov 10

    Oh my goodness :) this story may not be the most common but its a perfect love story. I hope to experience the love you have and I would also love to say , Congratulations.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  6.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 10

    Totally agree with the article. Women are now gaining equal rights and now they share the equal responsibility of being the one to initiate relationships online. That is the only fair thing to do and I think a woman can tell if I am incompatible with them better than I can so it is better if they initiate things and get the ball rolling. Of course this only works if both sides are honest in their profile and forthcoming with information to each other but it is the dawning of a new age and I prefer aggressive women in that capacity and even did when it wasn’t popular. That way is safer too because women always accuse guys of chasing them because the guy is a horny pig. Well if the woman’s character is so much better, then let her be the one that does the chasing so the guy doesn’t get stereotyped as the aggressive horny type. I hate that stereotype with a passion and never fit it even when I was young and women are rarely seen that way when they initiate things unless they make obviously sexist comments that would get a guy in trouble if they said it.;-) Just be wary guys because if a woman doesn’t even know you and she starts calling you “baby” early on, something foul is a foot and you should look out.;-) So I agree with this article as a whole.:-)

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  7.   thickness27 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct 10

    Souns sweet.....

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment

Advice

Find your soulmate on Swirlr

Join Free

Coaching Testimonial

"My online love inspiration angel"

Submitted by: Patricia, USA, 21

To be honest, in the beginning, I thought it would be a waste of time. But since I've never seen a similar service in any other dating site, I decided to give it a try.

I always "thought" my profile was on point and I did not need any help to correct my page. I always had in my profile if someone is not attracted to my profile, then that's "their" loss.

BOY WAS I WRONG!!

I will never forget my first time using the Coaching Service I was introduced to my personal Dating Coach. Let me put it this way, if it was not for her I would have given up long time ago (even though I'm a new member).

She taught me so many things and gave me good advice, I did not want to stop chatting with her at all.

She opened my eyes to many possibilities when finding love. She is definitely an inspiration and I appreciate a whole lot. She is more than a Dating Coach to me; she is more of a close friend/guide to me. She is definitely my "online love-inspiration angel".

Find out more

Most Popular

Your Comments