From Painfully Honest to Blissfully Happy

Posted by Leticia, 05 Feb

Something drew members “Lily_Rosie” and “jack213” to one another. They lingered on each other’s profiles, saw something that spoke to them, and clicked the button to reach out. These singles bridged the broadband gap and now they are much more directly connected — they’re married! 

Shannon joined our site because she didn’t feel she had much choice. “As a single mom working full time, traditional dating was too hard for me,” Shannon informs us. “I knew I was not going to find love in my immediate area. I tried other sites with high hopes. Then I came to you after a Google search. Your site brought me the love of my life!”

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However, Shannon wants to remind readers that her happy outcome was a long time coming. “Don’t give up! I joined this site, hoping for the best, and it took me three years to meet this man. It took another three before we married. It doesn’t happen overnight! I know we wish it would, but it doesn’t.”

Paul was a divorced father of two. He begins his part of the story… “This was my first time with online dating. I was divorced and my children suggested I give it a try. I was very skeptical, but I hoped for the best. I had heard some horror stories from friends.”

Our site stood out to him as his best bet, so Paul took the plunge and signed up. After two months with us, he saw Shannon’s profile and was impressed. “Her pictures blew me away. She was very down to earth, and just so beautiful. She was everything I wanted and more.” So he sent her an email…

Shannon read it with certain criteria in mind. “My biggest factor was that my match have children and be comfortable with me having children,” she tells us. Looking at Paul’s particulars, she saw that he was in a similar situation. “It worked perfectly. His initial email was so honest and straightforward. I was attracted to his honesty from the beginning. He told me he was a single father who loved his girls and that was all I needed to hear. I thought he was very handsome in his pictures, too!”

So she wrote back and they opened up a dialogue. Paul says that Shannon didn’t come off as someone who knew her profile photos were “stunning,” as he describes them. He observed that initially she was “very quiet and shy, and it really caught me off guard.” Shannon was just nervous and warmed up pretty quickly. “He was very honest and open,” Shannon reports. “He was easy to talk to.”

Paul is grateful that he took a candid, “lay it all out there” approach. “Be honest,” he advises singles. “I told her everything, probably some things she didn’t even want to know, but I didn’t want her to be surprised by anything during our relationship. Some parts of your past may be embarrassing or painful, but it’s best to let people know upfront, rather than find out the hard way. I wanted an honest relationship with a good woman, and I got that by putting myself out there. It may be hard, but honesty is the best way to gain someone’s trust.”

To confirm their perceptions of each other, the pair scheduled their first date. “I wanted to see if the chemistry we had on the phone would be the same in person,” explains Shannon. Paul jokes, “I had to see if this beautiful person was real!”

When Shannon first laid eyes on Paul, she wasn’t disappointed. “He's adorable!” she thought to herself. “What a cutie!” He remembers his first thoughts being along the same lines. “She’s even more beautiful in person. Am I being punked?”

Shannon says she was most surprised by “how we immediately clicked. I just felt so comfortable with him. Our first date was so romantic. We didn’t want to leave each other’s side for a minute.” Paul noticed a turnaround in her demeanor. “She was so warm and friendly, definitely not shy!” He immediately asked her out again and Shannon was eager to accept his invitation. She tells us that Date No. 2 presented another point in Paul’s favor. “He can cook! On our second date he cooked, and that was a wonderful surprise.”

As this romantic liaison evolved from dating into a relationship, the wonderful discoveries kept coming. Paul reflects, “I’m finding out new things every day that make me love her more.”

We’re sure you’re wondering how Paul proposed. Shannon provides the answer… “New Year’s Eve of 2012, we went to Atlanta. As the peach-drop countdown began, he got down on one knee and proposed in front of everyone. Of course I said yes!!! I’m happier than I can ever imagine being.”

Paul is still marveling at his good fortune. “She has shown me what real, true love is,” he says. Shannon adds, “I have told my friends and family that online dating can work. Be open to the possibilities. I always had hope and faith and believed that my love would find me, and he did! I’m so happy I joined this site. We would never have met otherwise. THANK YOU!”

All in a day’s work, Shannon!

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  1.   mpumza32 says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 15

    Yoh this is incredibly touching what I learn from this hastes makes a waste.

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  2. Posted: 25 Jul 15

    Wonderful story, their patience paid off#

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  3.   salamman says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 15

    So Amazing

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  4. Posted: 15 Jul 15

    Wish dem all de best i thing they r lucky so nw is tym to wait 4 my turn myb i can b lucky

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  5.   carel0007 says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 15

    and me :/

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  6.   khapha says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 15

    Blessed 2those are happy

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  7.   Kayler81 says:
    Posted: 16 May 15

    Very inspiring indeed ~ I am right here waiting for my turn.!!!

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  8.   yullie says:
    Posted: 19 Apr 15

    Beautiful story and amazing couples

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  9.   LadyEWO says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 15

    Beautiful couple with a beautiful story to match.

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  10.   2moo says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 15

    I'm encouraged with this message,its beatiful

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  11.   Ghtyr says:
    Posted: 05 Feb 15

    Thats beautiful

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  12.   leande2012 says:
    Posted: 30 Jan 15

    wish them all the best and also waiting my turn

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  13. Posted: 13 Dec 14

    What a cute couple! <3

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  14.   Johnson522 says:
    Posted: 29 Nov 14

    I which u the best

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  15.   Salmonkanny says:
    Posted: 11 Nov 14

    Wonderful,thats nice.

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  16. Posted: 09 Nov 14

    Wow dats nyc

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  17.   MzMerri says:
    Posted: 21 Oct 14

    CONGRATULATIONS! Beautiful story! I wish you both a lifetime of happiness!

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  18.   bayana says:
    Posted: 10 Oct 14

    Great

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  19.   amayi says:
    Posted: 05 Oct 14

    Love it! Can't wait my turn in time:)

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  20.   Queen_2B says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 14

    Congratulations to you both. Wow, just like the two of you, I'm praying, hoping to finally connect with the love of my life. I'm ecstatic bcus I know he's looking for me as well. God bless this family always!

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  21.   letlet30 says:
    Posted: 10 Aug 14

    How so great and beautiful inspiring true story of this couple. Very touchable.. its amazing that wecre not expecting what we have a life in our future.. from painfully honest and to blessfully.. How great is our is ou God.. Congradulations to your success relationship.. God bless always...

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  22.   smatranjit says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 14

    Great job

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  23.   lax2687 says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 14

    i wish u the best in life.

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  24.   IJayne says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 14

    Congratulations, I wish you the best!

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  25. Posted: 01 Aug 14

    So wonderful♡

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  26.   mwaaa says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 14

    Whens my turn coming......i wish them the best

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  27.   cuttiee84 says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 14

    Happy for them.

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  28.   coxmen says:
    Posted: 26 Jul 14

    great

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  29.   amen01 says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 14

    Mate we all have a past and we need a second life time to reveal our past life to a new relationship. Its our own values principles and morels that defines who we are.. The world says this is ok but our spirit doesn't lie. Listen to the spirit witg in. He doesn't lie. GB

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    • letlet30 says:
      Posted: 10 Aug 14

      Yes ur absolutely right Mr. ameno1.. everybody was learn to our life, no matter what and why have a failure relationship.. we must be accept the reality and we must be keep going to our new life now.. how life so beautiful. God give a reason and learn for us what is life..

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  30.   shell1021 says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 14

    Beautiful !

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  31.   hersh1988 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 14

    :)

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  32.   Rmistry says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 14

    Nice

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  33.   xkool says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 14

    Wonderful

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  34.   UHM says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 14

    congs jeff and kalama ilove ya testimony and my God bless your relationship in jesua name and ipray imeet someone ready to come see me here in uganda aswell.hugs for both of you

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  35.   syeven says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 14

    Conguraturation

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  36.   kafulamu says:
    Posted: 10 Jun 14

    oh its good for them

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  37.   amootious says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 14

    Congs to Paul and Shannon and may God bless you.I too believe Im onthe right site

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  38.   johnnel30 says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 14

    Congratulations to them for such a lovely happens

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  39.   prettysoogs says:
    Posted: 30 May 14

    Hope I get lucky like them wushing them gods blessings

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  40.   Brbone says:
    Posted: 28 May 14

    Mysterious love thats what im looking something that i frel is real .I see u looking

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  41.   barrylegal says:
    Posted: 21 May 14

    Milyana, it is nice to have you said hello to all of us out there !

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  42.   barrylegal says:
    Posted: 21 May 14

    It is an highly inspirational success story .I hope to find my true love too on this site but pray not to wait for 6 years like Paul--Shannon 's before getting married .It pays to be honest and open up yourself and life to your partner from the onset I am looking out for my love and my love too will discover me on this site .

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  43.   malaak1986 says:
    Posted: 21 May 14

    i pray i find love som day..and by the will of god i knw he giv me my missing half .my true unconditional love becouse he is aloving god..

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  44.   malaak1986 says:
    Posted: 21 May 14

    waw what an emotional and yet perfect love story...i pray for their happiness .god bless

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  45.   2dare says:
    Posted: 20 May 14

    Its been said, that when you stop looking for love, you will find it. but you have to be open to receive love. I myself am still holding out hope that lighting will strike! All my best to the ones who've found there Ms. or Mr. Awesome! Staying strong for the rest of us who are in waiting, but enjoying life.

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  46.   Milyana says:
    Posted: 13 May 14

    Hello there nice to meet you all

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  47.   sinawo says:
    Posted: 10 May 14

    Congrats you guys,its not often in life we are blessed to our equal enjoy being happy

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  48.   frankwod says:
    Posted: 09 May 14

    This is really good to hear...God will surely connect us sooner than later.

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  49.   Nimssy says:
    Posted: 01 May 14

    Wow..am happy 4u guyz,God bles ur luv

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  50.   chackeno says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 14

    it is the fact you may accept it.

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