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(Almost) 20 Reasons Some Black Women Should NEVER Date Interracially

Posted by Christelyn, 14 Sep

Based on nearly 10 years in the interracial dating business, I ’ve come up with a definitive list for the types of black women who are on the fence about interracial relationships. If you do anything remotely similar, hop back off the fence in the direction you came.

You’re afraid of pink penis

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You think your relationship should be an extension of your politics

You mindlessly fight for people who are against your best interest and collective image

You can’t judge people as individuals

You think every white person you see is a descendant of a wealthy slave owner

You are more afraid of being fetishized than being unmarried, lonely, diseased, abuses, and a single mother

You care too much about what your family thinks, and they will accept black dysfunction over interracial harmony

You have zero tolerance of innocent ignorance and endless tolerance for deliberate ignorance

You have no idea or no desire to relax, be feminine, and shift your ideas of what a caretaker’s roll in a relationship looks like

You think dating white men will be the cure for all your ills

You don’t properly choose your battles (hills you want to die on)

You believe your own stereotypes

You’re afraid of entering foreign ecosystems cuz you believe you’ll be rejected.

Your too lazy to cultivate yourself for any environments other than black ones.

You believe black lies that say non-black men aren’t attracted to black women.

You are ashamed of your hair and prioritize that shame over everything else in a healthy relationship.

You resent mixed-race women and don’t want to birth one yourself.

You are afraid that having a non-black mate will make you less relatable to other black women.

You think every discussion with a non-black man must be about race politics

You make it your mission to turn your non-black partner into a hashtag activist for all things black so he can make up for simply existing.

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

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  1.   Bethy_1234 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 19

    When you can look at that special person as a person and not a color is when you can truely love , and treat said person as your love your boo your everything thats all anyone truly in love wants, then respect, loyality,empathy will come

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  2.   divanita36 says:
    Posted: 28 Dec 18

    This is hilarious, first and foremost, I love my hair!!! It's natural and black, thick and curly. Next, I love mixed kids, they're so pretty and adorable. I hope to birth one myself. No, I don't fight on political issues. I believe every one is opinionated I do judge everyone as individuals, and every thing out in this post is opposite to how I think. And just in case you haven't noticed, baby, I'm a very black lady.

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  3.   mirelajohn says:
    Posted: 18 Oct 18

    Well this with the hair is funny so if u dont want to put in to this situation cut it short and wear wigs like every self respect women. Sorry but everyone like to tuch silky soft hair even if is short . Even me as white i wear wigs

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  4.   Justchin02 says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 18

    Yes I prefer to date white men that has dated black women but have been hesitant I would love to venture out because I have mixed in my family they I have always dated black men half of my family are married to white women

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  5.   Justchin02 says:
    Posted: 25 Sep 18

    Yes I prefer to date white men that has dated black women but have been hesitant I would love to venture out because I have mixed in my family but I've always dated black men so I kind of wanted to see how it works out for me because half of my family are married to white women

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  6.   sonatarctica says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 18

    pretty funny!

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  7.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 14 Sep 18

    “Your too lazy to cultivate yourself for any environments other than black ones.” I guess this falls into the same category as “acting white”, as if there is any such thing as acting white or acting black. Well, kinda but not really. The kinda comes in when we think about blacks (but it’s really any race in this regard) in the inner cities/ghettos. Yes, they DO have a way of “acting” and it’s not to their favor. They literally clown themselves and media such as TV shows, movies and some commercials clown them also. There are only 2 ways a person can “act” (i.e. present themselves) and those are 1. Like you have class, dignity and intelligence. Or 2. Like you lack any dignity, class or intelligence. People of all races who grow up in the ghetto and use that as their excuse to be ignorant fools who lose their temper at the drop of a hate or speak as if they never got passed Kindergarten, those are the ones who say to blacks people “you’re acting white”. A well spoken black man or black woman is seen as a ‘sell out’. Ok, so if they’re sellouts for getting an education and good paying job, please explain what the “struggle” is that the inner city black community is always complaining about? If they suddenly didn’t need to “struggle” anymore, would that make them sellouts as well? The hypocrisy is mind boggling. Once you become old enough to operate a motor vehicle (16) you should already be on your way to making decisions for YOURSELF and no longer just allow yourself to be a puppet to the ignorance of the people around you who keep filling your head with “but the white devil!!” Oh please!

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